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Are your Kids Watching These Shows During this Holiday?

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Hi moms, it’s December, the month of fun, relaxation and just ‘letting go’ after the year that has been. And the kids also look forward to the Christmas season – putting up the Christmas tree and decorations, hanging out with their cousins and friends, enjoying some screen time, and also taking fun road trips to shaggz to visit their grandparents.

So nowadays, when it comes to screen time, there’s a wide range of exciting shows that kids can enjoy, and Showmax is a great solution for offering these shows to your little ones. Showmax is an internet TV service that allows you to watch plenty of series, movies and kids’ shows from any device as long as you have an internet connection.

Today, I’ll list some shows that your kids would enjoy this holiday (there are plenty more to choose from).

The Marvel Collection

Anything that has Spider Man and the Avengers is always a win, especially for kids who love comic books and superheroes. Showmax has an exciting Marvel Collection that includes: Marvel’s Avengers Assemble, Marvel’s Ultimate Spider Man, Marvel’s Avengers: Ultron Revolution, Marvel’s Guardians of the Galaxy and Marvel’s Ultimate Spider Man vs the Sinister 6.

The Barbie Collection

Barbie, the world’s most famous doll, has been a childhood favourite for generations. And now there are 12 different Barbie movies on Showmax for fans to watch back to back. There’s: Barbie in the 12 Dancing Princesses, Barbie Thumbelina, Barbie Dreamtopia, Barbie in a Mermaid Tale and Barbie in The Princess and the Pop Star, among others.

The LEGO Collection

Many kids are familiar with LEGO courtesy of the toys and bricks, but there are some very funny, cute LEGO shows as well that they can get stuck into.

On Showmax, there’s LEGO DC Superheroes: Batman Be-leaguered, LEGO Star Wars: The Freemaker Adventures, the LEGO Ninjago Collection and more.

Disney

There’s a good number of shows that kids love on Disney, shows whose characters  you’ll find on their t-shirts, socks, backpacks, watches, lunch boxes… shows that the kids love so much that they watch them over and over again. Showmax has them. Let’s start with PJ Masks, which is such a favourite for almost all the kids I know. Then there’s Doc McStuffins, Sofia the First, Captain Jake and the Neverland Pirates, My Friends Tigger & Pooh and Mickey Mouse Clubhouse.

The Best of Nick Jnr

Go Diego Go and Dora the Explorer are shows that I started watching with my kids when they were little, and which we still enjoy watching together. I absolutely love Diego and Dora.

Other cartoons on Showmax that would be enjoyed by the younger kids are: Wonder Pets (my kids and I enjoy singing along to the jingles), Yo Gabba Gabba (it has fun activities that you can do together with your kids), Mike the Knight, Paw Patrol, Bubble Guppies and Peppa Pig.

There are also plenty of family movies on Showmax that you can watch as a family this December holiday to create lasting memories of time together, such as Ella Enchanted and Space Chimps.

Here’s the link to start watching Showmax. Let me just mention though that one thing that I like about Showmax is that you can download shows at the times when you have good Wi-Fi, save them and then watch them later when you’re offline. This is a good plan for example if you’ll be going to shaggz and there’s no Wi-Fi there; it means you can still watch your favorite series or movies while there.

Downloading and saving to watch later is also a good plan for the kids, as they can watch the shows while on the road travelling. You can also download shows on your smartphone or tablet for them to watch when they go to the salon to have their hair done – it means less fidgeting and less boredom! Try that out 🙂

 Oh, and by the way, there’s an offer on at the moment, where for only Ksh250 (paid through M-Pesa) you get to access Showmax for the next three months. The regular monthly cost is Ksh880 per month, so this is a great offer that you don’t want to miss this holiday. You can even buy four Ksh250 vouchers and get a full year of Showmax for only Ksh1,000!

Also, Showmax allows you to select age-appropriate shows for your children so that you can be sure they are only watching shows that are suitable for their age. Read more about that here.

Another great thing about Showmax is that there are no commercials. You just get to watch your shows back to back with no ad interruptions -which is such a #win!

There’s plenty of exciting shows that you can watch together with your kids this holiday on Showmax, creating some good bonding time, so click on this link to get watching 🙂

Otherwise Happy Holidays!

*This post is supported by Showmax.

Baby Amara Still Continues to Save Lives Today: Details of First Aid Training on 9 December

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Alice Kibagendi with her late daughter Amara.

Hi friends, hope your week was great and that you’re looking forward to the weekend. Now, in case you missed my last post, where I shared the story of Sarah who was faced with a ‘situation’ after she found out her house girl of two years was HIV positive, you can catch up with it here: “This is What I Did After I Found out my Nanny was HIV Positive”. I love sharing stories of encouragement, and I hope Sarah’s story will encourage you.

Alice Kibagendi.

Now, a few years ago, I shared the story of Alice Kibagendi who lost her six-month old daughter Amara through choking. Baby Amara died as she was being fed by the nanny. This experience ignited a passion in Alice to help more people -parents, care givers and nannies to be more aware of the fact that basic First Aid saves lives. Her daughter’s death inspired her to start ‘The Amara Initiative’. You can read that story here: “My Baby Amara Choked to Death, but she Continues to Save Lives Today” -Alice Kibagendi’s story.

The reason I’m sharing Alice’s story today is because The Amara Initiative will tomorrow hold a first-aid training for parents and caregivers. The training will be at the All Saints Cathedral in Nairobi.

I encourage you to attend if you can. Also share this information with a friend. You can see more of Alice talking about the Amara Initiative in the video below. Otherwise have a blessed weekend.

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House Helps in Kenya: Living with an HIV Positive Nanny

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HIV-Positive-Nanny

Living with a HIV positive house help or nanny. How does that work out? Well, today, I have an enlightening experience from Sarah, a Mummy Tales reader who sent me her story of what she did when she found out her nanny was HIV positive. Read on…

“I discovered my nanny was HIV positive 11 months ago when she developed herpes zoster. We had lived with her for two years by then. Interestingly, she also didn’t know she was HIV positive, and it’s only when I took her to the hospital for the herpes zoster that she was tested for HIV. Once the results were made known to her, she was counseled and immediately started on ARVs.

At that time, I had just delivered my third born, and with my nanny unwell, I employed a day scholar house girl to undertake the house chores while she recovered at our home.

Firing Her

Let me be honest. The first thought that came to my mind after I learnt that she was HIV positive was to fire her on the spot. However, my husband, a medic, didn’t support me on this. He first wanted to understand what my concerns were.

Nowadays by the way you can test for HIV in the privacy and comfort of your home. HIV self-test kits are available in pharmacies.

I explained to him that I feared for my kids, especially the newborn. I told him I was afraid of leaving her alone with the baby once my three-month maternity leave ended and I had to return to work.

But as we talked, we got to admit that our nanny had been nothing but good to our family and especially our children. She did her work well, was respectful and our kids love her to bits. I really had no issues with her. So, after a lot soul searching, I decided to keep her.

Also Read Tabitha’s Story: The Day I Found out my House Girl was HIV Positive

The one thing that I however made sure I did was have her take a TB test, because sadly this would have been our point of separation if the results would have been positive. Thank God they were negative.

The truth is, most of us employ house girls without knowing their health status and if they have any medical conditions that need special care or attention, just the way I did. When it comes to HIV, it’s not easy to tell one’s HIV status, and it’s even possible for someone not to be aware that they are infected, just like my nanny was.

Also Read: 12 Questions to ask When Interviewing a House Girl

At the hospital, we were told that she must have been HIV positive for about six years. She has a seven year-old son, whom she was advised to take for an HIV test. Thankfully his results returned negative.

She suspects she was infected by the father of her son, whom she was married to but had parted ways with him five years earlier. He is now deceased, having been beaten up by thugs long after she had left him.

I Take Care of Her Well

Today, 11 months later, my nanny is still with us. I take time to talk to her and encourage her. Whenever she goes to the clinic for medication and review, she and other patients are given HIV & AIDS education, including how to stay healthy and prevent passing on the infection to others.

A Pharmacist at a clinic in Nairobi displays some of the ARV medications in stock for HIV patients who visit the clinic. Courtesy Photoshare

We just advise her to be careful -basically the same stuff she learns at the clinic. Actually, by the time I’m telling her some things on care, she already knows them from the teachings she receives at the clinic.

I support her as best as I can. I make sure she eats well, vegetables and all. It also helps that she takes her medication and her health very seriously. She has even set an alarm on her phone to remind her when to take her medication. She never misses to take her drugs and at the recommended time. She has also invested in warm clothing to avoid catching colds and coughs and so far we’re managing well.

You too Can do It

So yes, it’s possible to keep a house girl who is HIV positive, even when you have little children in the house. This is my experience, and I hope my story will encourage a mother out there. Our house girls, regardless of whether they are HIV positive or not, need care and love. And from my experience, I have seen that they really appreciate what you do to them and for them. Thank you Maryanne Mummy Tales for sharing my story.” -END

Thank you Sarah for your honesty in sharing your experience, which is quite enlightening. So how about you fellow moms? What would you do if you found out your house girl was HIV positive? Would you keep her, or would you let her go? This is a question that I see being raised many times in the mommy groups I’m in, meaning that it’s an issue that troubles many moms.

If, just like Sarah you also have a story that you’d like to share with other moms, email me on maryanne@mummytales.com you never know the impact your experience could have on the next mom who reads it.

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Marion’s story

Why I Took in My House Girl’s Son to Stay with Us” -Marion’s Story

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“Why I Created this Painting Depicting the Experiences of Women Facing Infertility Challenges” – Christine Nyairo

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Hello friends, hope you had a great weekend. Now, I’m a member of the online group “Waiting Wombs” which was started by a lady I admire so much –Hadassa Trip, and who I’ve written about here: “Why are you Wasting your Husband?” Editah Trip Talks about her 7 Year Journey of Trying to Conceive

So now, there’s a time a member in the group shared a piece of her art work –a canvas painting depicting the reality of many women undergoing infertility challenges. It’s a piece that touched the hearts of many of the members.

I reached out to the artist –Christine Nyairo, seeking to know more about the inspiration behind that piece. Thankfully, Christine responded and today, I share that information with you.

TITLE: ‘’The Waiting Womb’’

MEDIUM: Acrylics on Canvas

Maryanne: Hi Christine. Tell us the the story behind this beautiful piece

Christine: Thanks Maryanne. This work was inspired by waiting experiences as shared by ladies on the Facebook group ‘Waiting Wombs’ (a support and encouragement forum for women and couples experiencing infertility challenges). The first thing I did after joining the community was to familiarize myself by reading all the posts. My heart was touched and broken at the same time. It was too much! I wanted to say something, a word of comfort perhaps, but no words could suffice.  Since joining the group, no day has passed without me thinking about these ladies.

’The Waiting Womb’ by Christine Nyairo

One day, as I was teaching my student, a thought came to me; to paint my thoughts and dedicate it to the founder of the group together with all the waiting wombs.

The painting is a representation of the waiting journey.  It has captured the bad and the ugly of waiting and the reward thereof. It is through the hourglass, that the chronology of waiting is captured.

The upper bulb of the hour glass is set on a dark background as if to show the darkest part of the night. The lady has been weighed down by waiting and is as sinking sand.

Her fallen countenance shows her state of hopelessness, disappointment, desperation, rejection, the stigma, unsolicited advice and in other cases, near death experiences.  She is broken bit by bit into pieces small enough to pass through the narrow neck into the second bulb. She does not know what is in store for her.

The dark gently blends into the brighter background just as the darkest of nights ushers a beautiful dawn. This is the setting against which the second bulb stands. Everything about it is lit. You see as the tiny pieces fall and settle, they form someone new.

Piece by piece the lady comes to life. Her morning has come. Her prayers have been answered. She is smiling again; her strength is renewed and she is full of hope. She is glowing; the fruit of her womb is growing. She sunk so she could be saved. She lost so she could gain. Nothing was in vain. After all she was not barren; she was a waiting womb.

The artist, Christine Nyairo

My prayer and wish is for all waiting ladies to be inspired to hold on to faith and hope for there is beauty in what people consider ashes.  Finally, I hope this painting will complement the efforts of the Waiting Wombs Trust in creating awareness.

Maryanne: Thank you Christine. That’s a deep and reflective piece!

If you’d like to contact Christine, you can do so via: tina.nyairo@gmail.com

Meanwhile, Waiting Wombs Trust is looking for counselors to help with some of their work. If you are one, or know of one who’d be willing to do so, please get in touch with Hadassa through the email hadassa@waitingwombstrust.org or waitingwombs@gmail.com

Share this post with a friend, sister, colleague, cousin or aunt who you know would benefit from this information.

Otherwise thanks for stopping by Mummy Tales and I wish you a blessed week ahead!

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How to Add Dependents to Your NHIF

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Hey people, hope you good. So two weeks ago, I decided, after years of procrastination, to add my family members to my NHIF. I just woke up and decided today is it. I’m gonna get this done, no matter what. Today today today.

The nearest NHIF office to me is the headquarters over there at Community. Now, I didn’t want to go in the morning hours because I figured there would be long queues because many people prefer getting things done in the morning hours. So I went at about 3.50pm and thankfully, there were only three people ahead of me 🙂

But first let me take you back a little bit. About two months ago, I’d emailed NHIF customer care asking about the documents I needed for me to add my dependents. I didn’t want to go to their offices, then queue for long, only to be told that I didn’t have this or that document meaning I’d have to go back another day. And I also didn’t want to send someone to run this errand for me because there are some tasks that I’d rather handle myself.

The Documents you Need to Add Dependents

So, I wanted to add my husband and two children as my dependents. The NHIF customer care had informed me that I needed the following documents:

  • Copy of my marriage certificate or a sworn affidavit from the Magistrate
  • Copies of birth certificates for each of my children. Or birth notification if the child is aged six months and below.
  • One colored passport size photo for each of the dependents
  • Copy of my ID
  • They didn’t say I needed my husband’s ID copy, but I carried it just in case.

The Process

So when I got to NHIF –I went to the Car Park building and straight to their Customer Care section. When my turn arrived, the lady at the counter asked if I had the necessary documents. With a very broad smile on my face, I said yes.

Then she asked again – “uko na documents zote kabisa?”

I replied: “Niko na zote zote zote kabisa”, this time with an even wider grin. I felt like a conqueror I tell you. I almost started rubbing my hands together in glee. As in I can’t tell you the happiness I was feeling just knowing that I had all the said documents 🙂

The lady then instructed me to fill a certain form, then take it to counter number 15.

A section of the form that I filled out.

Haya, so I filled the form, attached my dependents photos with some glue that they provide, then proceeded to counter number 15. At that counter I found six people ahead of me. I passed the time staring at one or two people, observing others and just trying to understand human behaviour 🙂

When my turn arrived, the guy at the counter took time going through my forms, checking and counterchecking, punching things into the computer, then checking my documents again. Then he told me:

“Madam itabidi ulete affidavit”.

Haiya! Affidavit tena? I told him that the photocopy of my marriage certificate was right there in his hands, so affidavit how now?

Then he said “oooohhhhh sikua nimeiona madam, pole.”

We both laughed, as I told him no worries.

He then told me my NHIF status will be updated with my dependents. Then he looked like he’d finished with me.

So I asked him: “That’s it?”

He replied: “Yes, that’s it.”

Then I repeated: “As in, niende sasa?”

He said: “Eeee madam tumemalizana.”

Oh cool! I was done at like 4.21pm. I walked out of the NHIF offices happily.

A week later I wrote again to customer care asking them if my dependents had been added, and they responded in the affirmative. So yeah, in a nutshell, that’s it. It’s certainly not a difficult process, just make sure you have all those documents that are needed and you’re good.

Next, you can read about how to pay NHIF contributions though MPESA here: How to Pay NHIF via Mpesa.

You may also like to watch Evalyne Gatheca’s inspiring story below:

I also got myself this 13-paged information pack that has details on other NHIF stuff.

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Here’s a New Technology that’s about Saving the Lives of Premature Babies -the IncuBlanket by Warmilu

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On Tuesday this week, I was invited to attend a presentation about a new technology for newborns (especially preterm babies) that’s deemed to be life-saving for them. At the meeting, I met doctors, nurses and other health service providers involved in maternal and newborn care. There were also researchers and innovators – mostly those involved in health innovations.

I met fellow motherhood bloggers Santina Nyagah (left), myself and Lourdes Walusala (right) at the meeting.

So the technology is called the IncuBlanket, which is basically a non-electric baby incubator or baby warmer. We all know that warmth is a basic need for all newborns, and when it comes to preemies, this cannot be overemphasized. They risk developing hypothermia if they are left without warmth.

By the way, did you know that in Kenya, 26 preterm babies die daily? Kenya is ranked no. 15 globally with the highest number of premature births out of 188 countries. Preterm and low-birth weight babies need extra care to keep warm and grow well.

Now, incubators can help save the lives of these infants but unfortunately, many health facilities around the country don’t have electric incubators and other life-saving resources for warmth. Reasons? The electric incubators are quite expensive, with most facilities unable to afford them. Aside from that, there’s issues of electricity –blackouts, lack of generators, maintenance and repairs, the expertise required in handling this etc etc that just make the whole issue of electric incubators quite challenging in rural areas and other low-resource settings. But yet, many of the newborns who die could be saved if they are provided with basic warmth during their first hours, days and weeks.

The acute shortage of incubators in public hospitals in Kenya has led to the risky practice of babies sharing this medical equipment. Because of the shortage, babies spend less than the normal amount of time in the incubators to make room for new arrivals. 1 is the number of newborns one incubator is meant to house. Sharing incubators puts newborns at risk of contracting deadly infections. 805 is the number of under-fi­ve deaths due to direct preterm birth complications every month (MoH).

So because of this, there’s a number of people coming up with innovations that are trying to address this issue. Warmilu is one of them, developers of the IncuBlanket.

The IncuBlanket uses technology to generate non-electric, regulated (safe) and long-lasting warmth. It was specifically designed to thermoregulate infants who are at risk of becoming hypothermic and serves as an alternative traditional incubator, a transport incubator and/or as a supplement to Kangaroo Mother Care. It is also an all-round baby warmer.

The system basically consists of a blanket specifically designed to accommodate an infant, and an heating pack (InstaWarmer), which is activated instantly with the click of a disk. It is charged by simply boiling it in hot water for 15 – 35 minutes. The IncuBlanket is suitable for health facilities in rural areas where electricity and electric incubators are a great challenge. It has the potential to save millions of infants, especially premature babies.

The IncuBlanket has so far been introduced in Kenyatta National Hospital, Pumwani Maternity Hospital both in Nairobi, as well as the Moi Teaching and Referral Hospital in Eldoret. There are plans to introduce it to more health facilities around the country.

So now, this meeting was in a hotel room, and it was all theoretical. Me I’m more of a practical person, and so I told the organizers that I would like to get a more hands-on-experiences with moms who have actually used this, to get their feedback about it. Like go to the ground and ask moms – does this technology make sense to you? Do you think it can be improved, and if yes, what exactly? Also, I’d like to hear from the health workers about their experience with it –and if it’s also practical down there ‘on the ground’. If that happens I’ll be sure to come back and share that information with you.

Each IncuBlanket costs around $100 by the way. Do you think this is something that our local hospitals can afford? Would they afford to have a number of them in their facilities, especially those that can’t afford the electric incubators? Also, what do you generally think about it? What questions do you have about its use? If you work in the maternal and child health field, is this something that your organization would be willing to learn more about?

See my little demonstration about it in this video below 🙂 and be sure to subscribe to my You Tube channel here as I’ll nowadays I’ll be posting content there as well, so you don’t want to be left out. Otherwise? Plans for the weekend?

You can read more about the IncuBlanket by Warmilu here.

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Overcoming Alcohol Addiction: What 17 Years of Recovery Look Like – Chris Lyimo

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Hi guys hope you had a great weekend. In my post today, I share this story: “My recovery from alcohol addiction included dealing with the relationships and the people I had harmed in my life. My mother was number one. I had wasted her resources –I had hit her… then there was my twin sister who had since passed on… I had also lost a son who for the three months he was alive I drunk through them all… I needed to deal with this…”

This is the story of Chris Lyimo, who talks about how his years of recovery from alcohol addiction looked like. Chris got married in his 40’s to Wandia Njoya -he’d been sober for 17 years at the time he was getting married and that, for him, was good preparation “because I wasn’t husband material 17 years before that. I really wasn’t -I was a mess,” he says.

In this video, I share excerpts from the testimony Chris gave during an event I attended last month by Sitara Trust. It is a powerful testimony which I believe we could learn from, especially those who are dealing with alcohol addiction and recovery in their families, know of a colleague or friend who is, or have dealt with the issue before. If you feel Chris’s testimony could help someone and their family, feel free share Chris’s testimony with them.

Also see more videos on the Mummy Tales You Tube channel here and remember to subscribe 🙂

Of Mothers who Leave their Children Behind to Come Work in Our Homes

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House girl issues. This is usually a topic that many Kenyan moms can bond for hours over. As in bond like really bond! While some of these conversations revolve around their positive experiences with house girls, most are, unfortunately, negative. ‘Too much drama,’ we say.

Interestingly, most of the house girls we employ are themselves too, moms -whether they are live-ins, day scholars, or the ones who come for vibarua on a need basis. Many are mothers who have made the sacrifice to leave their own children behind to find work in the city and in our homes –work that includes raising our children.

But, do we ever know their story?

Today, I have a guest post from an ardent Mummy Tales reader, who we will identify only as Yunita. Read about the observations she made one day about the issue of house girls and the sacrifices they make to provide for their children, and her reflections on that. Read her story below, but before then you could also watch this video where I talk about the questions you need to ask while interviewing a house girl.

Now to Yuanita’s story. She writes:

“How does Angelina manage to do it? I still wonder. Angelina – quiet, demure, petite had just received a phone call which she’d answered in her mother tongue. It must have been important, because she answered it immediately.

After the call, she’d dropped her phone in her handbag, breathed in deeply and composed herself, focusing her attention fully on me.

“Pole mama”, she said, “Ni dada yangu anapiga kutoka nyumbani. Mtoto wangu mkubwa anawasumbua huko”. (I’m sorry, it’s my sister from back home. She says my daughter, who stays with them, is being problematic).

Also Read: The Day I Found out my House Girl was HIV Positive

Angelina had come for a ‘kibarua’ in my house for the day. She went on to share with me how her two daughters – aged 16 years and 13 years – were being raised by her elder sister.

“Wakati nilitoka kwa baba yao, walikaa kwa mama yangu. Lakini mama tulimzika mwaka jana. Sasa dada yangu ndiye anawaangalia.” (when I separated from their father, I left them with my mother, who sadly died last year. They are now staying with my sister).

Apparently, her daughter had been found engaging in some devious behavior and after being reprimanded about it, she had threatened her aunt with statements to the effect that “nitarudi kwetu”. (I’ll return to my home)

“Huyu mtoto wangu ati anasema atarudi kwao. Kwao vipi na hata hajui ni wapi?” she told me. (the girl is threatening to return to her place, does she even know where that is in the first place?

“Huko mahali anajaribu kusema ataenda nilitoka akiwa na miaka minne tu kama huyu wako,” she said, pointing at my daughter who was taking her breakfast. “Hata baba yake hamjui, sasa anafikiria ataenda wapi?” (she threatens to return to her father’s home, but I left there when she was just four years old. Her father doesn’t even recognize her, so to which home exactly does she think she’ll go?

I continued listening to her.

“Mimi nafanya vibarua. Naosha nguo, nachota maji na hata mjengo naenda kama iko kazi. Sibagui. Mimi kazi yoyote najua, ninafanya. Ile tu yenye sifanyi ni ile ya kuuza mwili lakini ingine yote mimi nafanya,” she said. (I undertake lots of menial work for pay. I don’t choose. The only job I cannot do is that which involves selling my body).

I nodded understandingly.

“Ile pesa napata kutoka kwa hizi vibarua ndio ina support hao watoto wangu na pia dada yangu,” she went on. (The money I make is what supports my children back home, together with my sister who is raising them).

Angelina had chosen to place her children in the care of close family members while she worked, because she believed that she’d better cater for their needs this way.

When I think about it, I’m in awe of Angelina and many others like her. I can’t imagine what a mother goes through having to be separated from her children for whatever reason – and the amount of trust and goodwill that must exist between her and those she leaves her children behind with.

That a mother, whose desire is that her children get the best, would perceive that her children’s best interests would not be represented if they remained in her care. That she must give them up in an act of love. I think that’s a heart-rending dilemma. And anyway, in this day and age, who raises somebody else’s children anymore, especially when the biological parents are still alive and in good health?

As I saw Angelina off later that day, I thought of the few times I’d been away from my family – three weeks at the most – and I cringed at the memory. I have traveled for work quite a number of times and each time I felt as though I’d literally left my heart behind and couldn’t wait to get back home to my young daughter.

So I celebrate Angelina and her contemporaries, acknowledging the heavy weight they must bear upon their shoulders. It’s not easy for any mother having to leave her children under the care of others, just so that she can fend for them. I also have deep thoughts for their relatives, who take on the task of raising their children.” –END

And those are Yunita’s sentiments. What do you think about her experience? Also, have you ever thought about your house girl in that light – about the possible sacrifices she’s had to make to be in your house? Share your thoughts.

Do you, just like Yunita have a motherhood experience to share? Write me at maryanne@mummytales.com and I’ll be in touch.

Kenyan Natural Hair and Beauty Brands

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Ruth rocking her beautiful natural hair together with her daughter Sanaa.

Are you part of the naturalista’s in Kenya? As in women who are rocking their natural hair? Me I am! 🙂

And then also, if you’re like me who believes in promoting local brands, then you’ll be happy to go through these images that I’ve put together of Kenyan natural hair and beauty brands from which you can see some of the products that are available, and which you may be interested in trying out.

Also Read: The Fashionable Kid: Sanaa and Ruth

By the way, which products do you already use on your hair? Which ones would you vouch for? Which ones work best for your hair? Which would you recommend? Share!

See video below and meanwhile, see more videos on my You Tube channel here 🙂

How to Perform a Self-Breast Examination to Check for anything Unusual

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Photo courtesy: Africa Knows

At what age should you perform a self-breast examination? When should you examine your breasts? How do you examine your breasts properly? What exactly should you be looking out for when doing the examination? Do you know how to identify unusual signs of the breast at the early stages?

Well, today I share information by Prof. Ronald Wasike, Consultant Breast Surgeon, Aga Khan University Hospital on the issue of breast self-examination, which provides answers to the above questions. Read it and share with your friends.

At what age should women perform Self-Breast Examination and why?

If you are a woman aged 20 years and above, it is important to take just a few minutes each month to examine your breast and ensure they are healthy. Regular examination enables women to identify any alarming signs changes in their breast early (more importantly is to have self-breast awareness) and if treatment is needed, it can be started as soon as possible to ensure better treatment outcomes. In most cases the problem may be a cyst or a small growth that can be dealt with easily. If it is cancer, then early detection gives a greater chance of effective treatment and cure.

When should I examine my breasts?

You need to examine your breasts at the same time each month as they will change in shape and feel different during your monthly cycle. One to two weeks following your monthly period is the best time. If you have reached menopause, the examination could be done on the first day of each calendar month.

Also Read: “Don’t Touch Soya! Looking Back, Soya Could Have Been the Source of my Breast Cancer” -Hon. Beth Mugo

During the first examination, you should note the normal size and the shape of each breast, the feel of the breasts (either one being larger or higher than the other is normal) and the position of the nipples. Knowing your body well makes it easier to spot any changes.

How do I examine my breasts properly?

Undress to the waist and stand relaxed in front of a well-lit mirror with your arms by your side. Turn from side to side for a complete view of the breasts and make sure that the part of the breast going towards the armpit is normal. Take your time.

To ensure you examine your breasts properly, you need to know where the boundaries of the breasts are. The boundaries are clearly recognisable below the nipple and on the inner side of the breast but the upper and outer parts fade away into the skin. Imagine your breast shaped like a water droplet with the top stretching towards the armpit (and sometimes extending into it).

Check for any changes in shape or size, as well as discolouration, very prominent veins or whether either nipple is turned in.

With your hands on your hips, look at your breasts, again turn from side to side and look underneath; push your hands inwards towards the hips until you feel your chest muscles tighten. Look again at your breasts while you keep pressing and note any puckering (creases) of the skin or retraction of the nipples.

Place your hands lightly on top of your head and again look at your breasts carefully. This position emphasises any differences in size or shape of the breasts. Now concentrate on the nipples and look for any excessive upward or outward change of the either nipples.

Stretch your arms high above your head; again, this emphasises any differences between the two breasts. Finally, look down at your breasts and squeeze each nipple gently to check for any bleeding or discharge, which is unusual for you. Make sure that the top part of your arms is not swollen.

How do I feel my breasts (palpation)?

Many women who have not reached menopause have rather lumpy breasts just before their periods and for some women, this may persist for the whole month. In such cases, it becomes easier to detect any unusual lumps during examination.

Lie down comfortably on a flat surface with your head on a pillow and slightly raise the side that you are examining. Use your right hand to examine your left breast and vice versa. Examine one breast at a time.

Also Read: Elizabeth Muema: Crocheting for Cancer is my Ministry 

With your left shoulder raised, feel your left breast using the three middle fingers of your right hand. Keep your fingers flat and close together; start from the collar bone above your breast, pressing the breast gently but firmly towards the body, tracing a continual spiral.

Move your fingers in small circles, working right around the outside of the breast.

Continue to work systematically over the whole surface of the breast, checking for any lumps.

Now place your arm comfortably above your head with elbow bent and carefully repeat the examination of the whole breast, paying attention to the outer part which can now be felt with more certainty.

You may find a ridge of half-moon shaped firm tissue under your breast, this is normal as this tissue helps to support the breast.

Finally, examine the tail of the left breast ensuring that you go right up into the hollow of the armpit.

Now repeat the same for the right breast. If you think you have found something wrong, or if there is a noticeable change since the last examination, consult your doctor without delay, it does not matter how uncertain you are. Take note of the change since the last examination or the location of the just identified lump, but leave it alone until you see the doctor.

Most lumps are not cancerous. If the lump is cancerous, it can be treated early enough, sometimes even without requiring mastectomy but breast conservation surgery.

What should I look out for during examination/Warning signs?

  • Unusual difference in size or shape of the breast
  • Alteration in the position of either nipple
  • Dimpling of the skin surface
  • Unusual rash on the breast or nipple
  • Unusual discharge from the nipple
  • Unusual discrete lump or nodule in any part of either

You May Also Like to Read:

“A Walk Through my Cancer Journey” -Wanjiru Githuka

Wanjiru Githuka, a cancer survivor. Read her story on Mummy Tales.

Facts:

Breast cancer constitutes 20 per cent of all women cancers in Kenya with 4,465 new cases and 1,969 deaths being reported every year according to Globocan statistics 2012-2014.

Breast cancer affects more women with less than 10 per cent affecting men. However, these numbers can be reduced with increased awareness on the disease including simple interventions like performing self-breast examinations, to identify unusual signs of the breast at the early stages and seek treatment in good time to ensure better outcomes.

I hope the information above helps. Share it with a friend 🙂

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