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5 Breastfeeding Tips for a New Mum in Hospital

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When you are a new mum, you assume that breastfeeding should come naturally. Only that for many new mothers, it doesn’t! And she gets pretty stressed about it. For some, breastmilk doesn’t come immediately while some have inverted nipples which makes breastfeeding difficult, and for others, getting baby to latch on well is such a herculean task!

I spoke to Susan Muriithi of Toto Touch who shares tips on how a new mum (whether you are a new mum for the first time or a new mum for the third, fourth, fifth time…) can get off to a good breastfeeding start, right from hospital. She says:

  1. Start breastfeeding as soon as possible after birth –preferably within the first 30 minutes of birth.
  2. Ask for a hospital breastfeeding counselor, nurse or lactation consultant to come help you incase you are having problems or you just need to ask a question. Don’t be afraid to ask.
  3. Ask the nurses not to give your baby formula or any food or drink unless it is medically necessary.
  4. Allow your newborn to stay in your hospital room all day and night so that you can breastfeed often. Incase your baby is at the nursery, request the nurses to bring him over to you for regular feedings.
  5. Try to avoid giving your baby any pacifiers or artificial nipples so that he or she gets used to latching onto just your breast.

Hope that helps! Share this with a pregnant mum or any new mum you know.

Happy breastfeeding!

photos credit: toto touch

[PHOTOS]: The High Tea Event for Fistula that I Attended

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I spent last Saturday afternoon at the Serena Hotel where I attended a high tea fundraising event for fistula. The event was organized by the Flying Doctors Society of Africa (FDSA), and was aimed at raising funds that will enable women who suffer from fistula undergo repair surgery.

An obstetric fistula develops because of prolonged and neglected labour which becomes obstructed. Obstructed labor is when the baby’s head constantly pushes against the woman’s pelvic bone during contractions. This action prevents blood flow to vital tissues and if a ceaserean section is not available, the vaginal tissues become destroyed, leading to the formation of a hole (fistula) between the bladder and birth canal. Urine then leaks continuously through this hole.

When the same damage occurs between the rectum and the birth canal during childbirth, feaces leak continuously from the rectum to the birth canal. Majority of women with fistula often report to have labored for three to five days. In 95 per cent of the cases, the babies are born dead.

Here are some pictures from the event. The pictures had such beautiful women dressed in such beautiful clothes! At the end of this article, I have commented on the two ladies who I found to be the most well-dressed, so make sure you catch that.

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Tanya Nduati (right) of FDSA with a guest.
Tanya Nduati (right) of FDSA with a guest.
The fashion house Njema Helena had a fashion show during the event. Totally loved their clothes.
The fashion house Njema Helena had a fashion show during the event. Totally loved their outfits.

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There was lots of jewelry on sale.
There was lots of jewelry on sale.

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And some clothes and bags on sale too.
And some clothes and bags on sale too.

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I met Peninah Njambi of Kahesa papers -she's such a sweet girl.
I met Peninah Njambi of Kahesa papers -she’s such a sweet girl.
Dr. Eunice Kiereini, Chairman of FDSA gives her speech. Dr. Kiereini has championed many medical outreach programs in remote areas of East Africa. She is one of Kenya's most celebrated women.
Dr. Eunice Kiereini, Chairman of FDSA gives her speech. Dr. Kiereini has championed many medical outreach programs in remote areas of East Africa. She is one of Kenya’s most celebrated women.

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Most women who suffer fistula are in rural areas, or in urban slum areas and who cannot afford quality maternal healthcare before, during and after childbirth. It costs about Sh30,000 to have a woman undergo a fistula repair surgery in a public hospital. It costs about five to 10 times more than that in a private hospital. Most of these women cannot afford even an eighth of this amount, and that is where the Flying Doctors Society of East Africa (FDSA) comes in.

Related: Melvin Barongo’s story: “I used diapers for 10 years because of a fistula”

On a regular basis, FDSA holds free fistula medical camps in different parts of the country where women who have suffered years of leaking, smell, shame and stigma get to have the relief they have yearned for for years. These women do not pay a single cent for the repair surgeries, because of the kindness of well-wishers who contribute money, time, equipment and supplies to ensure that they have their dignity restored. The high tea fundraising event I attended last Saturday will see to it that tens of women will have their prayers answered this year, through free fistula repair surgery. I was glad to be a part of these efforts.

Also read: The 4 year-old girl with a traumatic gynaecological fistula

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There I goes 🙂

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Anne Waithera of FDSA in her little white dress.
Anne Waithera of FDSA in her little white dress.

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Ms. Charity Muthoni.
Ms. Charity Muthoni.

Like I said, there were many beautiful ladies dressed beautifully, but the ones that stood out most for me was this duo of Wangui Kariuki and Christine Kagwiria. Those people of Citizen TV’s Fashion Watch should comment on these outfits, don’t you think? Are they appropriate for a high tea event, madam Carol Odero and Annabel Onyango?

Wangui Kariuki (left) and Christine Kagwiria (right). Stunning.
Wangui Kariuki (left) and Christine Kagwiria (right). Stunning.

So there you go. It was indeed a great and fun event, all for a good cause. If you’d like to help a fellow mum with fistula access free surgery, you can get in touch with the Flying Doctors Society of Africa on tel: +254 722 205 084 or +254 733 333 004 or email: flying.doctors@flyingdoctorsafrica.org

Also read: Yvonne Njoki: After 2 years of shame, I finally got healed of fistula

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This Cot-Themed Baby Shower Cake…

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There’s a time I used to be invited to so many baby showers -there was two or three every weekend. But nowadays I’ve noticed that they’ve decreased…to actually zero now… I think my friends have stopped getting babies, no? Yes, that must be it.

So anyway, I’ve seen a good share of baby shower cake designs -some impressive and some, well, nothing home to write about. As I was browsing the internets I came across these cot-themed cake designs by one Terry Adido of the Grated Nutmeg, and I must say, I was impressed. This, in my view, is lovely for a baby shower. What do you think?

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“How I Started my Drinking Water Business with 2 Million Shillings” -26 year-old Ruth Mawia

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Have you ever thought of starting a water bottling company? Do you know how to go about it? Or would you like to know more about how young female entrepreneurs go about starting their own businesses and manage to stay afloat? Then learn more from Ruth Mawia Mwanzia who started her own water bottling company –largely driven by her passion to see to it that all people are able to consume clean drinking water. This, having grown up in Kitui County -a semi-arid area where water is a scarce commodity and even when available, she says most people consume unclean water.

In this interview, the 26 year-old entrepreneur talks about the challenges she has faced; penetrating into the market and having to compete with large, established brands, among others. Ruth also talks about her marketing strategies -which have seen her Koola Waters brand now stocked in most supermarkets and shops.

Ruth works with a team of employees and has great expansion plans for her business.

Be inspired by Ruth’s entrepreneurship journey.

Also Read: Valerie Muigai, her Kijani Cloth Diapers Business, and her Young Family

On Having a Little Girl…

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This is a random photo that I took of my friend and her adorable little 2 year-old daughter. I took it in December last year, but it is only a few days ago that I was going through those photos and this one arrested me, literally. I just stared at it for like five minutes, totally engrossed in it. It generated so much warmth in my heart as I remembered just looking at them and witnessing that raw, natural love.

The photo of the two of them reminded me of the relationship I have with my mum. I’ve always been a ‘mummy’s girl’, and I do know that my mum somehow ‘spoilt’ me. Not that I ever complained anyway. I’m blessed to have had a pretty good relationship with her ever since I was a little girl, one that has continued to get even better over the years.

I’m very grateful to still have my mum around to share with me nuggets of wisdom especially on motherhood, marriage and life. My mum is my strength, my friend, my teacher, my adviser, my intercessor, my rock, my role model.  If you’re still blessed to have your mum around, tell her that you love her today. And don’t forget to tell it to your daughter too.

I may not have a little girl myself, but I will always be someone’s little girl… I love you mum.

Valerie Muigai, her Kijani Cloth Diapers Business, and her Family

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Valerie Rogers Muigai is a 34 year-old mother of three; daughter Natalie 6 years, Nathan 3, and baby Joel who is 7 months. She and her husband Muigai have been married for eight years and are currently raising their children in Uganda.

Valerie is employed and also manages a side hustle – Kijani Cloth Diapers which manufactures baby diapers. I had a chat with her about her life as a mother and as an entrepreneur who is also employed –and how she strikes that balance.

Maryanne: Tell us a little about yourself

VRM: I am the middle child of three girls, and I grew up in New Jersey in the US.  I moved to Nairobi when I was 24 years-old for graduate school, and I met my husband while living in Nairobi.  We got married in Kenya and since our wedding, we have lived in three different countries (Tanzania, US, and Uganda where we have been for the last 3 years).  Although being in an intercultural marriage can have its challenges, we work hard to create our own family culture with the best things from each of our cultures and try to teach our children to be proud of both of their cultures.

Valerie and her husband.
Valerie and her husband.

Maryanne: Did your life change after you became a mum? If yes, how?

VRM: Yes, it did.  For me, I have always loved children and ever since I was young I looked forward to becoming a mother.  Becoming a mum was a transformational experience for me.  Although children can definitely be stressful at times, I love the day to day interactions and responsibilities of caring for babies and young children. I found my priorities shifted – whereas I had a lot of career ambition before becoming a mum, my main priority after I had children was to find a job that would allow me the flexibility to spend a lot of time with my children.

Watch the video below that shows how Valerie makes the Kijani cloth diapers.

Maryanne: You run Kijani as a side hustle. How does employment and entrepreneurship work for you?

VRM: I am grateful to have a very flexible part time job that I really enjoy. My job allows me to spend a lot of time with my children and run Kijani as a side business.

Maryanne: What advice would you like to give women thinking of starting a business?

 VRM: I would suggest thinking of skills or knowledge that you already have and seeing how you can use those to earn some money.  Also, look for gaps in the market that you may be able to fill.  For me, we used cloth diapers with all of my children and I loved them. When we moved to Uganda, I started making some for friends as baby gifts because I realized there was no place to buy them in Uganda.  When their friends saw them, they started ordering some and that is how Kijani was started.

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Other advice I would give is to start small and to start as a side business if possible, or at least make sure you have some money saved up for the first several months. There are always a lot of expenses involved in starting a business and it can take a while before it starts to make money.  Starting small also allows you to make mistakes, learn from them, and correct your course without having these mistakes destroy your business.

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Valerie can be reached through her website www.kijanionline.com

Facebook: Kijani Baby -Uganda / East Africa

Tel: (+256) 0772 206 018

Also Read: She Quit Her Airline Job to Start a School: Caroline Njiru’s Story 

Read more stories of Kenyan mums who run their own business outfits here.

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House Helps in Kenya: How Soon Should you Travel When You Have a New Housegirl?

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Stella Shilingi, the accused housegirl.

For mums who travel often, after how long do you feel confident enough to go for a trip when you have a new house girl? One week? A month? Three months? Half a year? A year? How about never? Well, these are some of the questions I found myself asking after reading about the story of one woman in Nairobi called Monica Wairimu, whose new house girl stole a couple of items from her. The stolen items included:

  • Death certificate (don’t ask)
  • Assorted jewelry
  • Sh3,000 in cash
  • Three handbags
  • Three wigs
  • ATM cards
  • Clothes
  • Shoes

All the above items were reported to be valued at about Sh60,000.

Also read: The day I found out my house girl was HIV positive

The house girl – called Stella Shilingi (no kidding) stole the items when her employer was out on a trip. It is actually a mama mboga at a nearby kiosk, and suspicious of the items that Stella was carrying, who called up Monica and asked her if she’d asked her house girl to take some items to her (Monica’s) boutique, that the truth was discovered. Monica had not asked her house girl to take any items anywhere.

So after Monica reported the case to the authorities, Stella was arrested in her Kakamega home, where some of he stolen items were recovered. She’s now pleading for forgiveness. Stella had worked for Monica for only 16 days.

Also read: I have been with my house girl for 13 years -Caroline Kinyanjui

So let me ask you – after how long with a new house girl do you often feel comfortable enough to travel?

Information source: Standard.

What Foods Should A Pregnant Woman Eat? What about Liver?

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What should you or should you not eat when pregnant? And what is that they say about not eating liver during pregnancy? Guest writer Dr. Stephen Mutiso, a consultant obstetrician / gynaecologist offers us helpful insights with regard to this.

What Foods Should You Eat While Pregnant?

Pregnant women should eat healthy foods in order to provide adequate nutrition to the growing baby. A pregnant woman must strive to eat a balanced diet, as this is crucial for the healthy development of the baby.

A diet is balanced if it contains the following: starch, proteins, vitamins and minerals. Thankfully, many of our locally available foods are rich in these nutrients, and they are affordable. Foods rich in starch include ugali, rice, chapati and potatoes. Common sources of proteins include beans, peas, fish, milk, eggs and meat. There are many fruits and vegetables available locally which are a good source of vitamins and nutrients and include spinach and sukuma wiki.

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It is also important to note that the demand for iron in pregnancy is very high and cannot be met purely through foods. That is why iron supplementation is recommended during pregnancy.

A high intake of fiber and water is recommended during pregnancy, as it helps to reduce constipation because pregnancy slows down bowel movement.

What about Liver During Pregnancy? Should you or Should you not Eat?

It is not advisable to eat foods rich in vitamin A –such as liver or if eaten, they should be eaten in moderation. This also applies to supplements that contain high doses of vitamin A. This is because high doses of this vitamin have been associated with significant birth defects, hence caution to avoid prenatal vitamins containing this vitamin. This caution is especially important for women planning to get pregnant, and during the first trimester of pregnancy when the organs are forming.

Pregnant women are also advised to avoid raw and undercooked meat which may increase risk of acquiring toxoplasmosis which may affect the baby.

Alcohol must be avoided at all times.

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Should I be Eating for Two When Pregnant?

From a nutritional point of view, a pregnant woman eats for two, hence the need for her to eat nutritious food. However, this does not mean eating twice as much in pregnancy. She should focus on ensuring she eats quality food, not quantity food. Eating too much is bad both for the mother and baby and could lead to problems.

How Much Weight Should I Gain During Pregnancy?

Weight gain during pregnancy is vital in preparation for breastfeeding. The recommended weight gain for non-obese women by the end of pregnancy is 10-12kg.This translates to about 0.5kg per week. If one is obese, the recommended weight gain is about 8kg.Weight loss during pregnancy is not recommended, so one should not be on a weight-loss diet.

Most of the weight gain occurs after 20 weeks of pregnancy when nausea and vomiting has reduced or even ceased.

Gaining too much weight increases the risk of gestational diabetes, backache, high blood pressure and a likely caesarean section due to a big baby. Too little weight gain can lead to low birth weight and premature birth.

Dr. Stephen Mutiso is based in Nairobi, and he provides a wide range of gynaecological services including: antenatal care, delivery (normal and caesarean), infertility treatment, fibroids, fistula issues, and screening for reproductive tract cancers, and gynaecological operations.

He is based at KNH Doctor’s Plaza, Suite 26/27

Tel: 0722 678 002 or 0788 306 674

5 Tips for the Cautious: Mixing Business with Family and Friends, by Sammy Muraya

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As we start the year, I have to share with you some helpful insights from my former colleague, award-winning journalist, soccer commentator and father -Sammy Muraya. They are important lessons that he learnt in 2015, and which I’m sure would be of great benefit to you too – especially if you’re in business.

Muraya says:

“2015 was a pretty weird and tough year, and I’m glad that God helped me see it through. But in as much as I may just want to talk about the toughness, there have been lessons learnt and blessings too. The most valuable lessons that I am taking to 2016 are:

1. Business and friendship should never mix. When doing a deal, do it purely as business and think of yourself first.

2. Mixing family and business can either work for you or really mess you up big time. Sometimes you just have to turn down relatives because more often than not they will not appreciate your efforts and will only see the negative things. They will not take note of the extra effort you put in, or the fact that you many times have to go back to your pocket to get the job done.

3. Never ever do any serious business deal in a bar. More often than not the conversations will be forgotten and what you thought was a sealed deal ends up being a memory in your head only.

4. Never ever have verbal agreements with anyone. Where possible, make sure you have something written before you enter any deal.

5. Don’t lose friends no matter what. It is in tough times that you will know your real friends. Try to hold onto the few that you know will be there for you no matter what.

Having said all that, I am praying that you all have a great 2016 ahead. I am sure mine will be a Happy 2016.”

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 Have you had any experiences dealing mixing business with family and friends? How was that like?

Women do it all the Time, so Why Shouldn’t I?

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Have you ever seen a man carrying his child on his back – you know – the way we women do it with a lesso or towel? I’m yet to see one myself, but one such man in South Africa recently caused a stir when he was spotted in a supermarket carrying his 3 year-old daughter Funzani on his back – tied with a towel. Awwww how sweeeeeet!

But apparently not everybody thought it was a ‘sweet’ move, as 26 year-old Sandani Muremela ended up being laughed at and ridiculed by fellow men, with many accusing his wife of having cast a ‘love spell’ on him – I guess because there’s no way a sane, fully grown African man can be seen in public carrying around a child tied to his back – the way we women do it.

But this caring father couldn’t be bothered much by people’s comments. He had opted to carry his daughter that way in the supermarket, in a bid to make his shopping experience much easier (good idea). Sandani also said that he has chosen to be a present father for his daughter, himself having being raised by a single mum after his father left the family when he was just a year old.

“I don’t want my child not to know the love of a father. It’s not a good thing at all. “I love my daughter and will do everything to protect her,” he said.

I could just about tear up right now.

The girl’s mum, 24 year-old Lebohang Mashego acknowledged Sandani’s dedication to his daughter, saying that she knew she could depend on him.

“I’m proud of him. I’m glad he’s not ashamed to carry our daughter like that, and I didn’t give him korobela (the equivalent of kamuti I guess?).”

Awwwww!

Photo by Quibell Rantswana
Photo by Quibell Rantswana

 A big thumbs up to Sandani Muremela!

Do you know of any dads who carry their children tied to their backs, with a lesso or towel? Does this happen in Kenya? I would sure like to meet one!

Source: Daily Sun

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