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Why I Quit Employment as an Electrical Engineer to Become a Stay-at-Home-Mom

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Maryanne W. Waweru
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A few weeks ago, I wrote the story of Betty Achieng, a mom of two who quit her job to become a stay-at-home mom. The story received quite some reactions, with many moms saying that even though they too would be glad to stay home and raise their children, prevailing circumstances just don’t allow them to. Indeed, the role of a mother during a child’s formative years is unmatched, and I believe we all recognize this, no matter the situation you find yourself in. You can catch up with Betty’s story here in case you missed it.

Well, today I  bring you the story of 35-year-old DIANA KETTER, an Electrical Engineer with over ten years’ experience in the building industry. She has been married for 7 years and is a mother of two. Diana also quit her job to become a Stay-at-Home Mom (SAHM). On this blog, I share our different experiences as women and as moms, hoping that you can learn something new, or draw some inspiration from the stories shared. This is Diana’s story.

Maryanne: What made you decide to become a Stay-at-Home mom?

Diana: I resigned from my job after I had my second born. This was after I realized I needed to be more active in my children’s lives as they grew. I felt that God has given me the responsibility to raise my children and be more present in their lives, as this will help in positively impacting their character. I felt that being a stay-at-home-mom was how I could best do this.

Diana with her children.

Maryanne: Did you consult with your husband before you made the decision?

Diana: Yes, I did have to ask my husband. But even before asking him, I prayed about. When I told him, it came as shocker and he requested for time. I must say that something that was clear to me from the beginning was that if my resolve to be a stay-at-home-mom was going to work, then my husband had to be involved and that he had to make the decision on his own.

Maryanne: Did you have a financial plan?

Diana: Yes, because being a stay-at-home-mom called for humility on my side as it would involve a lifestyle change. Also, my husband’s biggest concern was our finances and how that would change things. So I had some ideas.

During the discussions with him, some of the financial proposals I shared included us moving closer to his work place. Doing so meant that the school fees would come to almost half of what we were paying. The rent at the new neighborhood would also be half of what we were paying. In addition, there was a market nearby, so the cost of groceries would also be way cheaper. Basically, his salary would be enough. These are some of the proposals that helped in him agree with my decision to be a stay-at-home-mom. To date, we have never lacked as his salary is able to cater for our financial needs and our children are happy.

And something interesting is how God affirms our decisions. His friend once told him how rare it is to see a woman give up their career to raise a family. And that evening he came and told me ‘Thank you’.

The Ketter family.

 Maryanne: Moms who would like to stay at home to raise their children worry a lot about being financially dependent on their husbands. What has been your experience?

Diana: Yes, the fear of depending on him fully was there. So, when we were doing the budget (together), we allocated some money for my personal use.

However, I also tried out several things for personal cash flow. I tried making mandazi but I realized I’m not good with sales.

My next business idea was making mats, but I never got around to doing that.

I’m grateful I have an old friend (in the Engineering field) who gives me design jobs that I can easily do from my house. I’m grateful for the small contracts which I do from home.

In life we always have something in our hands (using the biblical analogy of when God asked Moses what it was that he had in his hands). I would advise women who are thinking about the decision to find something that they are passionate about that will not impede on the whole idea of being stay-at-home-mom and build on it as the children grow. I also always encourage people not to adore money and make it bigger than God.

Maryanne: What have you seen as some of the benefits of you staying at home to raise your children?

Diana: As a stay-at-home-mom, I’m now able to pick my son from school and we do homework together. I also have time to train him to take up some chores, and I also talk to him about why he should not watch some TV shows.

My first born is energetic and emotional, very few people understand him. I also didn’t understand him, and I struggled with disciplining him because being a working mum I didn’t have time (I used to leave home early and return late) and he would take things personally. I was that mum whose son would pull tantrums in public places and I didn’t know what to do. Now that I’m at home, I’ve come to understand him better. I have also noticed how much he enjoys my presence. I have learnt to meet his emotional needs and to discipline him appropriately. I occasionally get comments that his behaviour has really improved. I also know that we are still work in progress because there was a gap of 5 years.

Also Read: 5 Things I’ve Learned by Raising a Child with Autism – Esther’s Story

Some of the joys of being a stay-at-home mom are the stories my son excitedly narrates to me after school, the endless hugs I get from both children and the ‘I-love-you’s’ I don’t how many times a day, the songs we get to sing together and dance to (my daughter is just 10 months but loves music). I’m really enjoying observing my daughter’s milestones which I can’t remember with my son (sad). Other things that I’m loving is getting to cook for my family (and they love my food especially my husband).

Maryanne: How did your family members react to your decision to leave work to raise your children?

Diana: Before resigning I called my mum to inform her of my decision. She asked my reasons for doing so and after I explained, she understood and gave me her blessings.

With my father, he is still trying to understand it, with occasional calls of ‘Don’t you think it’s time to go back to work…”

It’s not an easy place because you understand where they come from, they schooled you for a purpose and you almost feel that the old saying “you shouldn’t educate a girl” would make sense to them.

My elder sister has always been very supportive –she herself is a stay-at-home-mom in Australia.

One thing that motivates me is the encouragement I get from the women engineering forums I’m in. I particularly remember the story shared by a fellow woman engineer who also quit employment to raise her children until one day they told her it was time to return to the workforce. She picked up from where she left and is now back fully in the field. And that’s my desire to grow in my career and this is not only for myself but to honour my parents.

Diana with her children.

Maryanne: How about the reactions from friends?

Diana: To many, it might seem like a failure having left work to raise my family, but one of the greatest lessons I have learned is that of being content with your decision. Few friends understand and will encourage you, while others have reasons why you shouldn’t, but the most important thing is to understand yourself and the reasons for doing so. Indeed, the pressure will always be there but do not let it define you.

Also Read: Every Woman Must Take a Break from Work – Lilian Maingi-Barasa

One of the challenges of being in a male-dominated industry is that you must work extra hard to prove yourself. And it’s not that women are not good enough, but the prejudice that is out there is real. Something I learnt in the industry is not to wrestle with male ego, but your work will speak for you. And that’s the same thing about people’s opinions; how you have raised your children will speak for itself.

Maryanne: As a mom, do you find time to take a break?

Diana: One of the challenges of being a stay-at-home mom is that sometimes you just need a break, otherwise it will surge into something else. So for me I take occasional long walks and I have found that they help me cope well.

The other thing is you can easily get unfit (something I am trying to find a way around). And the last is getting comfortable and locked out. I’m yet to get there my only social time is in church but it’s something to watch out for.

Maryanne: Your parting shot?

Diana: I am very grateful that I can be a stay-at-home mom because I am aware of many other women who don’t have this choice.” -END

Thank you Diana for sharing your story.

If you’re a stay-at-home-mom just like Diana, and would also you like to share your story, you can email me on maryanne@mummytales.com If you found this story helpful or inspirational, share it with your friends too.

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Mummy Tales is a platform dedicated to empowering its readers on different aspects of maternal and newborn health, as well as various issues surrounding motherhood and women. Read more motherhood experiences of Kenyan moms here. Connect with Mummy Tales on: YOUTUBE l FACEBOOK l INSTAGRAM l TWITTER 

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Raising a Child with Autism in Kenya: 5 Things I’ve Learned

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Maryanne W. Waweru
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Esther Mung’ui, 37, is a mother of two boys. Her eldest son Ian, is aged 15 years and is autistic. I’ve previously written about Esther here. With more parents nowadays receiving diagnosis of Autism in their children, I talked to Esther about the most important lessons she has learned with regard to raising Ian, and her subsequent advice to fellow parents who are raising children within the Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD).

I believe her insights will be helpful to parents, guardians and relatives who are involved in caring for and raising children -not only those within the Autism spectrum, but other special needs children too.

Esther’s son, Ian, who is gifted musically. All he needs to do is keenly listen to a song –only once -and he will grasp all the words of the song. All. Of. Them. He’ll then sing word for word and in the exact same tune!

So these are the five important lessons Esther has learned.

Lesson #1: Patience

As a parent of an autistic child, you must have patience. From delayed milestones, difficulties with potty training, challenges in undertaking activities of daily living such as dressing up, brushing teeth, feeding themselves etc. All of these will take time – sometimes a lot of time, and you just have to learn how to be very patient with your child and allow them to take one step at a time; at their own pace.

Lesson #2: Love

I have learnt to love my son, no matter what. You must love your child unconditionally. There will be moments of frustration for both you and your child, but your devoted love and care must prevail at all times. You will find that your child may be unable to express themselves, will sometimes be very frustrated –leading to hyperactivity, tantrums or meltdowns, and many times he/she might feel agitated or pushed away as no one seems to understand them. But when you embrace your child and show him/her sincere love, when they are assured that you love them no matter what, it soothes and calms down their anxiety.

Esther with her sons.

Lesson #3: Acceptance

I have learnt to accept that Ian is my son, and that he is an autistic child with special needs. I can say for sure that being in denial is the worst thing that can happen, so the moment you just have to accept the circumstances you are in and learn to make the best of the situation, you are able to cope better. While it’s not easy, but it certainly is possible.  I would also say that if you’re finding it hard to deal with, then reach out to other parents who have gone through similar circumstances; we are here to help you. You are not alone.

Lesson #4: Understand the Circumstances

Your child might decide to pee anywhere due to his inability to express himself, or soil himself such as when travelling. Sometimes when my son gets sensory overload, he son screams while blocking his ears, regardless of where we are. I have learnt to understand him and ignore the crowd if we are in a public place, while dealing with the situation accordingly.

Lesson #5: Celebrate the Milestones

I have learnt to appreciate any little milestones or achievements that my son makes. For example the day he learnt how to go to the toilet by himself, to feed, bathe, brush his teeth, read and write some few words. These are such HUGE achievements and I celebrate each and every one of them!” -END 

Thank you Esther for sharing your experiences.

Related: How to Teach a Special Needs Child to Dress Themselves [VIDEO]

So those are some of the lessons that Esther has learned, and continues to learn. I hope you will find them helpful. You may also share with a fellow parent -it may be of help to them too.

See Previous Post: When to Stop Blending Your Baby’s Food

Here at Mummy Tales: Raising a Family in Africa, I like sharing inspirational stories of other women -experiences that we can all learn from. If you have an experience you’d like to share with other women, you can email me on maryanne@mummytales.com and I’ll be in touch with you. 

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By this Age, you Should Stop Blending your Baby’s Food

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Maryanne W. Waweru
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Hi everyone and welcome back to Mummy Tales. One question that many moms with infants ask is – “When should I stop mashing/blending/pureeing my baby’s food? Another question they ask is – “When should I start adding salt to my baby’s food?

These are questions I asked myself too when I was transitioning my boys to solid foods. In this video, I speak to an infant and young child feeding counsellor who shares expert advice to these questions. Watch it below and in case you learn something new, please share it with your friends as they too could find the information helpful.

Thanks for watching.

Mummy Tales is a platform dedicated to empowering its readers on different aspects of maternal and newborn health, as well as various issues surrounding motherhood and women. Read more motherhood experiences of Kenyan moms here. Connect with Mummy Tales on: YOUTUBE l FACEBOOK l INSTAGRAM l TWITTER 

 

Preeclampsia in Kenya: Why Couldn’t I Carry my Pregnancies to Term – Ruby Kimondo’s Story

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Maryanne W. Waweru
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What do the emotions of a mother who has delivered her baby prematurely look like? How does she feel, when she knows that her baby’s life is hanging by a thread? When she knows there might not be another day for her baby to see?

Ruby Kimondo is a mother of four boys, having delivered them at 28 weeks, 30 weeks, 38 weeks and 34 weeks. Ruby suffered from a dangerous pregnancy-related condition called preeclampsia all through her four pregnancies. Today on Mummy Tales, Ruby gives us insights into what she went through during those difficult moments, and how she is now helping other women who have undergone similar experiences.

Ruby Kimondo

Why Couldn’t I Carry my Pregnancies to Term?

“My preterm birth experiences were quite the challenge. With each birth, I was left with strong feelings of guilt and inadequacy. I wondered why I couldn’t carry my pregnancies to term and felt horrible about subjecting my babies to many painful medical procedures as they spent their first days of life in incubators at the Newborn ICU. This was even before I could cradle them in my arms.

Would my Babies be Alive the Next Day?

I remember facing dark moments where I was not sure if my babies would live to see the next day. During those times, I would grope in the dark, asking the doctors endless questions as I looked for slightest glimmer of hope that there would indeed be another day for my babies. Many times, that glimmer of hope was hard to find. I therefore lived through the uncertainty of not knowing what would happen next. I decided to take one step at a time and one day at a time.

See also: Mary Wanyoike’s inspiring video below

So I learned to let go, even love from a distance and just trust. I showed up for my babies every three hours, every day, for weeks on end. I went through the slow and steady process of accepting and learning to live through the challenging experiences that I could not run away from. And soon the prematurity storm passed with such indifference to my experience of it.

Preemie Love Foundation

I began talking about my preterm birth experiences and connecting with other mothers who had gone through similar experiences. This led to the formation of a support group for parents of preterm babies, called ‘Preemie Love Foundation’ in 2015. In it, we draw lessons from our collective experiences. Our activities include:

  • Provision of information and support for parents who have undergone the prematurity experience
  • Provision of mental health care to parents going through the prematurity experience
  • Provision of follow-up and guidance to parents after discharge from hospital
  • Creation of public awareness on prematurity issues

Preemie Love Foundation has created Peer Support Networks where parents can receive and give compassionate support to one another and receive information and practical suggestions for caring for their babies.

We use WhatsApp as our primary communication and information dissemination tool. We also have frequent physical meetings by active members  where we reach out to new mothers at Kenyatta National Hospital (KNH) Newborn Unit and other hospitals.” -END

Thank you Ruby for sharing your story. If you would like to join the Preemie Love support group, if you know of a mom who would benefit from the interaction, or if you’d like more information from Ruby, see her contact details below:

Email: kimondo.ruby@gmail.com

Facebook: Premie Love Foundation

Do you have an inspirational motherhood story that you’d like to share with other moms? You can write to me at maryanne@mummytales.com

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“I Delivered My Baby Prematurely: What I Went Through” – Lucy Ongaya

His Name was John: How I Survived Preeclampsia

Severe Menstrual Pain is not Normal -Faith Gichanga Osiro

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Maryanne W. Waweru
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If you’re a mother of a daughter or if you have a younger sister or niece who has already began her menses, do you talk to her about what’s normal or not regarding menstruation? Do you know if she experiences extremely painful cramps during her periods? It’s good to have these conversations with our young girls, as it could help establish any underlying health conditions there may be.

Today, I share a post by FAITH GICHANGA OSIRO, an endometriosis warrior, who shares her own experiences with painful periods.

“I am an endometriosis warrior. It’s sad that it took me 20 years to get a diagnosis. 20 years of putting up with excruciating pain that I was made to believe was normal -even by doctors.

I believed I was fragile since every other woman around me seemed to be carrying on with life normally. As a result, armed with a stash of pain medication, I pushed myself to attend classes, go to work, attend corporate meetings and social events. All this, even during times when I felt like several knives were stabbing me in my stomach.

Also Watch: Endometriosis and Infertility Link (Dr. Wanjiru Ndegwa)

Then there is the chronic fatigue that made me think maybe I was just lazy because I couldn’t explain it any other way. So I pushed myself more -with a demanding daytime job and night school. This I did for many years.

By the time it was the weekend, I was usually a wreck so I’d lock myself in from Friday until Sunday morning when I would leave for church, before getting right back to hibernation.

No other girl has to suffer in silence. Let us stop telling young girls that pain during periods is normal. Early diagnosis means better chances of getting the correct treatment.

The awareness also allows one to give themselves adequate self care like I do now, with rest being on top of that list. There is hope!”

Also Watch: Period Symptoms you Should Not Ignore

If you know of a woman who also undergoes severe pain during her periods -to the extent that she misses work or doesn’t attend school, then let her know about a support group called Endometriosis Foundation of Kenya, which can be reached on email: endometriosis254@gmail.com or +254770 659689.

Mummy Tales is an organization dedicated to empowering its readers on different aspects of womanhood and motherhood. Read more motherhood experiences of Kenyan moms here.

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The Day my Two-Month-Old Daughter Had a Urinary Tract Infection (UTI)

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Maryanne W. Waweru
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What kind of mother allows her infant daughter to get a Urinary Tract Infection (UTI)? That is the question that Dorcas Nthenya asked herself over an over again. Dorcas will never forget the day one of her twin daughters contracted a UTI at the age of only two months. This is her story, as she shared it with me.

“It all began when my husband arrived home for the weekend (he works in Nairobi while we stay in Embu) and when he held one of our twin girls (then aged two months), he immediately asked me for how long she had been breathing that way.

I was confused and immediately asked him: “breathing how?” He responded by saying she was breathing heavily.

Upon touching her forehead, we realized she was very hot, and when we took her temperature, it was 39.1 degrees Celsius. And that was the beginning of my nightmare. We don’t have 24 hour clinics or chemists in our town but thank God we had some fever reliever suppositories in the house and we immediately inserted one into her. I couldn’t sleep a wink and we were up all night monitoring her. When morning finally arrived, we rushed her to the paediatrician.

Aren’t UTI’s for Adults Only?

Upon examining her, the doctor sent us to the lab for a malaria test and a stool test. Both results were negative. He then told us that she most likely was suffering from a Urinary Tract Infection (UTI). He sent us to the lab once again to have her urine tested.

While heading to the lab, I wondered how an infant could have a UTI, because I knew it was only adults who get it. In fact, I had had several UTIs when I was pregnant with my twins, but my doctor had calmed me down, telling me that the condition was common with twin pregnancies.

At the lab, I didn’t know that collecting a urine sample from my baby would be so difficult! We had to use a urine bag to try and collect the urine but five hours later, we still had nothing. Even after dressing her in diaper, she still didn’t urinate. We were so frustrated!

Worried about her Twin Sister

Meanwhile, her temperature remained high, with my husband very worried that she could convulse any time. Despite giving her paracetamol every two hours, her fever was not going down. I had long stopped wiping my tears and just let them flow, worried to death as I looked at the state my daughter was in. She was so low, wasn’t smiling, was just crying weakly, and each time she fed, she vomited it all.

At the same time, I was equally worried about her twin sister as during those moments, I wasn’t able to breastfeed her as much as I would have wanted to. She wasn’t receiving much-needed attention from me.

The Diagnosis that Broke my Heart

Finally, after a very long wait, she finally passed a few drops of urine and when it was tested, the results were positive for a UTI. Even though the paediatrician had hinted at us that this could be the problem, the confirmation that my little baby girl had a UTI shattered my heart.

I couldn’t help but think I had failed in my job as a mother because, what kind of mother could let her newborn have a UTI? Had I not been changing her diapers carefully? Even worse, I now noticed that her crying had been weak all along yet I hadn’t noticed this. I hadn’t also noticed the fever. I berated myself for being a bad mother. I felt so horrible!

The paediatrician put her on antibiotics -oral drugs together with injections for five days because the infection was severe. Meanwhile, the fever went on for three more days.

My Mother, my Friend

At some point we even considered travelling to Nairobi for advanced treatment, but my dilemma was leaving her twin sister behind. But I decided I had to travel if my baby was to regain her health. So I called my mother all the way from Athi River to come over to our place in Embu and stay with the househelp while I was away in Nairobi getting treatment for the baby. Without any hesitation, my mother agreed.

But as she was finalizing her travel plans, God worked a miracle and my baby’s fever started going down. I then decided not to travel to Nairobi as I saw she was getting better. Thankfully, in a few days, she regained her health.

Look out for Warning Signs

I must say that it was a traumatizing time of my life, and I wouldn’t want any mother to ever have to go through this. This is why I decided to share my story with other moms on Mummy Tales. This is my advice to mothers, especially those with daughters as they are more prone to UTI’s than boys are:

  • To prevent UTIs which mostly occur in baby girls, make sure her diaper is changed immediately she poops.
  • Use a clean cloth or cotton wool and warm soapy water to clean her completely. This is because the stool can lead to bacterial infections which can cause the UTI.
  • Talk to your house girl about the need to thoroughly cleaning the baby when putting on a fresh diaper/nappy. Show her how to do it. I did this with my house girl and I thank God neither of the twins have had a UTI ever since. My twin daughters turned 1 year old last week.”

Thanks Dorcas for sharing your story, and for the information you’ve provided. You can read more about UTI’s in children here.

Have you found this story helpful? If you have gained some information, then feel free to share it with other moms as it could help them too. And if, just like Dorcas you have a motherhood experience or advice you would like to share with fellow mothers, write to me at maryanne@mummytales.com

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How Endometriosis Affects Fertility -Dr. Wanjiru Ndegwa-Njuguna

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Maryanne W. Waweru
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Hi friends! Now, you’ve probably have heard that women with extremely painful periods (endometriosis) face serious challenges trying to get pregnant. Because for sure, endometriosis affects a woman’s ability to get pregnant. How so? In this video that I have prepared, a Fertility Specialist Dr. Wanjiru Ndegwa-Njuguna explains, in brief, how endometriosis affects fertility. Please watch and share this information with your friends, colleagues and relatives. See video below.

Click on this link to read more women’s stories on endometriosis that I have written about.

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Motherhood in Kenya: Why I Quit my Job to Become a Stay-at-Home-Mom

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Maryanne W. Waweru
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Betty, with one of her sons.

Working moms, have you ever thought of quitting your job to become a stay-at-home mom? If yes, what holds you back from making that decision? And if you did indeed make the decision, what has your experience been like? Well, today on Mummy Tales, we hear from BETTY ACHIENG, a mother of two who made the decision to stay at home and raise her children. Read her story.

“Growing up, my dream had always been to be a stay home mom so when I found out I was pregnant, I knew that dream would be real one day. Fortunately, my contract with the engineering company I was working in as a civil engineer ended just weeks to my due date.

After giving birth, at 26 years of age, I never bothered to look for an 8am-5pm job again. I felt a sense of peace as finally, I could say I was where I wanted to be.

Life as a Stay-at-Home-Mom

Not long after, we were blessed with our second son. I didn’t have any house help or nanny so I did everything around the house, except for days when I would get a ‘mama fua’ at least once a month. I must say there were days when I felt lonely and depressed because handling two kids below two years of age all day long and come evening, I had to be a wife wasn’t easy.

So that entire journey was a bit hard but since I had to be strong, I sucked it in. But the experience somewhat drained me because I stopped taking care of how I looked.

And somehow, I become so insecure.

At some point, I felt I needed to go back to work and make something of my life. In that season I felt so less of myself -I was a mother but deep inside I felt empty and lost.

So when an opportunity to get back to work arose, I ran with it.

I returned to employment after 2 years and 6 months of being a stay-at-home-mom. I got a job as a Personal Assistant to an Ophthalmic Medical Director.

I however didn’t know that this place I was running from (being a stay home mom) was where I belonged; where my purpose lay and where I get to be the woman God created me to be.

Becoming a Stay-at-Home-Mom Again

Barely four months into my new job, I resigned. This is because I felt that the sacrifice I was making was not worth it.

My children were most active during the day between 8am-3pm and yet those are the hours that I was away at work. Being away that time was not a sacrifice worth taking, so my husband and I agreed that it was better for me to stay at home. In addition, as a family, our desire has always been to raise our kids with Godly values, and we agreed that I was better placed to handle that.

Lessons I’m Learning as a Stay-at-Home-Mom

  • There are days when you will feel lonely, when being out of the house will feel great. During such moments, get time to go out, get a baby sitter and just take a break
  • Motherhood is a job too and it takes one’s time and energy. It is also a life school where you learn new things each day
  • Lastly, pray as much as you can. As women we are life-givers, do speak life to your kids, to your marriage (if you are married) and pray for strength daily.” -END

And that’s Betty’s story. You can read more of her writing on her blog here. Would you like to share your story as well, if you’re a stay-at-home mom? Or if you deep down in your heart desire to become a stay-at-home mom but you can’t? What holds you back? You can send me your story on maryanne@mummytales.com

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“It Took Almost 9 years to Discover what was Ailing Me” -Elsie Wandera

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Maryanne W. Waweru
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Hi friends, today I’m re-sharing the sentiments of one of my friends – Elsie Wandera, who I have previously written about here. Read her message below.

“Hi, my name is Elsie Wandera-Odhiambo and I’m the Founder of the Endometriosis Foundation of Kenya. I’ve had 3 surgeries to-date since I was first diagnosed with #Endometriosis. I remember I was 26 years-old and it took almost 9 years to discover what was ailing me and give it a name.

Read: “Severe Pain has Been my Normal for 20 Years”- Elsie Wandera’s Story

It always felt, and still feels like a punishment going through the hormone therapy, the pain medication every month. The first 8 months of my marriage has not been easy but I thank God for a supportive husband.

I think the worst is having to explain my condition to everyone to understand or even believe me. In 2014, I chose to #EndTheSilence and ensure my story was heard and represent the Kenyan women who suffer in silence. The Endometriosis Foundation of Kenya (EFK) was born through my pain… I say it’s all worth it because one day someone will find a cure and in the process I know many women feel that they are not alone as they read the other stories from the women in our support group.

I encourage women to share their endometriosis journey and use the hashtags #1in10 #SpreadTheYellow #EndTheSilence 

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House Helps in Kenya: I Offered to Educate our House Help, but it Didn’t Go as Expected

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Maryanne W. Waweru
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Hi friends! So there’s a time I asked this question on my Twitter (@MummyTales):

“Would you assist your house girl to pursue her studies?”

Let me pick out one of the responses that was shared by one mom. She said:

“The time I offered to educate our house girl was right after I undergone a difficult experience; my second miscarriage. We had employed her so that she would help me with the house chores as my pregnancy grew, and so that she could also help after baby came. But now with the sad loss of my pregnancy, we really didn’t need her services anymore -as such.

Since we didn’t want to leave her ‘just like that’, we asked her if she wanted to go back to school.

She said yes.

She had not proceeded beyond primary school after she sat for her KCPE. So, based on what she informed us were her KCPE marks, we then called in a few favors and got her a place in a secondary school.

Assured of a spot in the school, we then asked her to return home (shaggz) to fetch her documents which were needed for her registration and admission into the new school.

We thought all was going well.

But apparently not.

To cut the long story short, we discovered that she had lied about her KCPE results. Her grades were not what she had told us. In disbelief, we even called KNEC to confirm.

Also, it turns out that she had lied to us that she wanted to return to school. She wasn’t interested in pursuing her studies at all.

In fact, we came to discover that she had told us other lies about so many other issues.

We just had to let her go.

What we Learned from this Experience  

What I can say is that unless someone wants to do something, you cannot force it on them. In this case, we thought it would have been a good idea for the girl to pursue her studies (because we understand the value of education) but evidently, she didn’t share the same thoughts. We weren’t on the same page.

Her going back to school was what we thought was good for her, but she didn’t want it for herself.

What I would advise moms who would wish to assist their house girls pursue an education is that the idea has to come from the girl herself. She has to want it. When the thought is from her, the desire to learn and excel will be there and she will do whatever it takes to achieve her goal. She will find time to balance between working in your home, going to school and studying. I’ve seen other house girls do this with the help of supportive employers, and it all worked well for all.” END.

You may also be interested in the story of Martha who has had the same house girl for 13 years. What has she been doing right? She shares it all in the video below:

 

And that is this mom’s experience. How about you? Have you had such an experience? How did that go? Or would you offer your house girl that opportunity? Share in the comments section below, we would to hear from you.

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