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Kenyan Journalist Joy Wanja Muraya: My Exclusive Breastfeeding Journey

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JOY WANJA MURAYA is a health journalist who has won several awards for her outstanding health articles. And she recently became a new mum!

Before then, Joy had written articles on maternal health issues – pregnancy and breastfeeding included, so I was curious about her experiences; practical experiences.

With regard to breastfeeding, I actually had a little glimpse into it as I remember a few months ago, she needed help and called me up, requesting if I could share with her the contacts of Josie M. Karoki, a lactation expert. So when Joy’s baby turned six months old this August, I requested her to pen a guest post sharing her breastfeeding journey.

So when Joy’s baby turned six months old this August, I requested her to pen a guest post sharing her breastfeeding journey. Here is Joy’s story, in her own words.

 “The closest I interacted with exclusive breastfeeding was through the health stories I write every other day as a science and health journalist.

But I was certain that when I got my child I would make sure I practiced the gospel I preached in my articles. When the time came, it was not so easy but I am proud that I made it two weeks ago when our daughter Shantelle, turned six months.

I was taking my Masters in Public Health course at Moi University, enrolled in the evening classes. During the last semester, I was the ‘pregnant student’ so it was conspicuous to the lecturers if I missed classes. But I soldiered on and God gave me the grace to sit exams in December last year while seven months pregnant.

But! I had to face the giant in the room on whether I would resume the next semester that would begin in January and run through to June 2013.

January came and at nine months pregnant I would report to work and at 5.30 pm would duck-walk for my evening classes. So great was the support from my colleagues that there was a common joke that because most of my classmates are doctors and nurses, in case of an emergency, they would help me deliver and continue with class right there.

I gave birth in February and the course coordinator said I could take a break and resume classes when I was ‘comfortable.’

One month after delivery I resumed evening classes. So tough was the decision that after a discussion with my hubby, Martin Muraya, he encouraged me to finalise with school because I was in my last semester. During the maternity leave, I would spend the entire day at home with baby and leave for my evening classes in the city centre at 5.00 pm. I had earlier began preparing for this by expressing as early as the second week after delivery thus my milk stock was more than ample to cover the duration I would be in class in the evenings. My freezer looked like a milk—parlour; of breast milk though.

I also trained Shantelle to take expressed milk a week before I planned to resume classes and if this would not work there was the option on cup and spoon method and if this did not work too, I would have called off the semester and stayed home. Amazingly she took to the bottle very comfortably and I trained my house help on how to feed her for the period I was away from 5.00 pm to 8.30 pm. My husband would also be around when I was in class to ensure baby was comfortable as Mummy tried to concentrate in class….

Tried?

Let me say that I understood 80 per cent of the class discussions but I frequently dashed out of class to call home only to be assured that the baby is more than fabulous. I also had very understanding lecturers so though the classes were every weekday, I attended class either twice or thrice a week.

To increase and maintain my supply, I stayed hydrated and ate well and pumped at least four times a day including at 3 a.m. Luckily once Shan slept around 9.30 pm she would wake up once to breastfeed at 4 a.m with eyes closed then resume usingizi… From four months she sleeps through the night and dropped the 4 a.m. feed so I have the peace of night to express and store.

With an average of 250 ml per sitting, I managed to pump one litre per day as I was expressing and saving milk for consumption when I was out for evening classes and for later when I would resume work in May when she was three months. I resumed work when Shantelle was three months and with my examinations three weeks away, I really got the support from hubby, house help and relatives that I could sit end of semester exams.

 I would express in the office during the day and at 5 pm take the milk to my neighbor at 5 pm to deliver it home as I dashed for evening classes until 9 pm. But nothing prepared me for the decline in my milk supply as exams approached because of the stress that comes with revising. I took two weeks leave; one week to prepare for exams and the next week to sit the papers.

My milk supply reduced drastically during this time as my daughters consumption increased at four months old. I remember calling lactation expert Josie M. Karoki and she encouraged me to reduce my stress levels by eating and staying hydrated and getting enough sleep. We talked about formula with Josie but I wanted that to be a last resort. I was determined to get to six months of exclusive breastfeeding.

I am a trans-nighting guru when reading for exams and here I was faced with the choice of reading for exams or sleeping through the night to maintain my milk supply. I dropped reading through the night to get enough sleep and opted to heavily rely on discussion groups during the day to prepare for my exam the next day. During exam days I would attend the paper from 9 a.m to 1 pm in the city centre, rush home for lunch and to breastfeed then back for a discussion group at 3pm to revise for the next days paper.

Those 14 days of the exam period were the toughest but I pulled through and my daughter didn’t taste formula. When I resumed work, I continued expressing and I still do and I am determined to express at work until she turns one year….

Looking at her growth curve, I am glad I decided to exclusively breastfeed. It’s possible for many more working mothers, even those that have to juggle with adult learning. Now that I’m done with school, I now go home earlier by 6pm and I can’t believe that the stressful period is over!

Schoolwork, working, a newborn and a husband, with a great support network, it’s possible.”

Thank you Joy for sharing your inspirational story – Maryanne.

Sharing my Breastfeeding Journey on a Community Radio Show

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On Wednesday last week, I was invited as a studio guest for a health show at a community radio station, where the focus was on breastfeeding. Pamoja FM in Kibera primarily broadcasts to the Kibera community, though its frequencies also reach the wider Langata area.

My host for the show was Shangazi Zam, and basically she asked me to share my breastfeeding experiences –the goods, the bads and the reasons why I choose to breastfeed my sons and more so – my decision to exclusively breastfeed them.

It was quite an interactive show as both my host kept asking me questions, and callers also kept ringing in and asking me all these questions about my experiences. The questions they asked me largely centered around how I maintain my milk supply, how I managed to express milk after returning to work, how I ensured that my boys’ caregiver (housegirl) understood the need to sterilize baby’s feeding equipment and if he ever fell sick with diarrhea or any such ailment, and also how my employer supported me –or not in my breastfeeding quest.

The issue that struck me most from the callers (all women) was about milk supply – especially after they go back to work. Kibera is an urban slum, and many of its inhabitants are low income earners, most of them casual laborers. To fend for their babies, many of them have to return to work even when baby is just weeks or few months old as they don’t have the luxury of a three month paid maternity leave as provided by the law -owing to their casual employment status. And still about milk supply, I am also cognizant of the fact that many households in the area cannot afford to eat three meals a day of a balanced diet, with healthy snacks in between which is the ideal for a nursing mom. Many times breastfeeding becomes hard because if for example she only has one meal a day, her milk supply definitely becomes affected making breastfeeding a tough task for such a mom.  So they have to wean the baby at a very tender age -and not at the recommended six months.

But all in all, I was glad to share my story and honestly answer all their questions, hoping I helped some moms out there.

And the show was in Swahili by the way and even though I can’t speak the Swahili of those 7pm news anchors who to me speak Greek in the name of Swahili, I know my Swahili aint too bad. Sio mbaya saaaaana. Atleast it’s not like Kethi Kilonzo’s ;) My Swahili by the way is heavily tainted with an Eastlands accent – it sounds like that one of Juma Masgwembe Masgwembe. Me I talk those ones of “haina nomaaaa…” :)

Anyways it was a nice show and I’d be glad to be a guest another should I get invited again. Thanks Thomas Bwire –News Editor Pamoja FM for the invite.

When Two Become One…

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Yesterday, I attended the wedding of a good family friend, and something unique caught my eye – something that I’ve not yet come across in the many weddings I’ve attended. It was this signage that carried so much weight!

You know the way you go to a wedding reception and the first thing you ask is “which is the bride’s side and which is the groom’s side?” Asin you want to know where to sit depending on which of the two your loyalties or alliances lie. :)

So in this my friends wedding yesterday, this question was aptly answered as you walked into the reception venue. This is how it looked:

How thoughtful, me thought. Yaani that message sank home kabisaaaa. :) Congrats to newlyweds Tony and Connie, I wish you a blessed union

Kitty has Been Learning how to Pray…

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So I’ve been teaching my boy Kitty how to pray. We do so just before he retires to bed, and this is how we do it. I say:

Jesus Christ,

Thank you for daddy,

Thank you for mummy,

Thank you for Aunty,

Thank you for Kitty,

Thank you for baby Ello,

In Jesus name we pray,

Amen.

For about 3 months, we’ve been praying this way, and every so often I tell him to repeat each sentence after me. And after much practice, I recently felt that he was ready to say the prayer by his own.

So about two weeks ago I asked him to pray on his own without any assistance from me. And this is how he prayed:

Jiza Krait,

Tek u to daddy,

Tek you to shrek (one of his toys),

Tek you to mummy (then he looked up at me),

Tek you to banana (because his dad was having dinner and there was a banana on the table),

Then he looked around…

Tek you to remote,

Tek you to daddy,

Tek you to donkey (another of his toy),

Tek you to baby Ello,

Still looking around…

Tek you to Royco (coz there was an empty tub of Royco which he’d been playing with)

Tek you to Kitty,

Looking around and beginning to play with mummy’s hair

Tek you to nywele ya mum

Now walking around….

Tek you to gazetti

Tek you to Aunty

Tek you to daddy

Tek you to TV….

So after around 5 minutes of this prayer, I came in and helped him complete it otherwise we’d have been at it till the cows would have left home the following morning. Since then, I’ve been asking him to lead us in prayer just before he goes to bed, and everyday the thank you’s have been changing as he looks around his environment and whatever he lays his eyes or hands on, he gives thanks for it.

That’s my lovely little boy. So proud of him. :) :)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

So these praying episodes have been reminding me of this verse:

Proverbs 22:6 – “Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.”

Have a blessed day.

Toto Wraps – The Stylish, Comfy Baby Carriers

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How do you carry your baby when moving around? In your hands? Or on your back wrapped in a lesso like the way our mothers did – like many African moms still do? Or in a baby carrier like many modern moms do? Or in a Toto wrap?

Toto Wraps are safe, unique, stylish adjustable baby carriers. Made of 100% pure organic cotton, the wraps are soft and sturdy carriers that provide great support and comfort for both baby and mom.

Here are some of the Toto Wraps

The Organic Stretchy Wrap

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  • The weight can carry a newborn – 13kg’s (+ / – 2kg’s) depending on the wearer’s stature.
  • Size 6 (5 – 5.5 metres)
  • It allows you to carry baby at the front in ‘kangaroo’ style.    This style makes baby feel warm and safe while in the wrap, enhancing the bond and attachment between mom and baby. The baby can actually feel mom’s heartbeat!
  • The baby remains snug in a kissable visible position. You can also cradle hold, hug and old, as well as talk to baby while wearing the wrap.
  • You can breastfeed while carrying baby. It actually helps stimulate milk production for the mom who wears this carrier at the front.
  • It also helps calm cranky and colicky babies as they feel warm and safe inside the wrap.
  • The calming environment it gives while carrying baby can help reduce postpartum depression.
  • It is adjustable and stylish, with the fabric being organic stretchy with African prints.
  • Price: Ksh 2,000

This is another colourful design, the Organic Stretchy Colorful African Panel.

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It’s features are similar to the one above, as it also allows you to carry baby in a ‘kangaroo’ style which helps you keep baby as close to you as possible. When baby is awake, he can touch you and feel your face, smile at you and engage you in chit-chat, enhancing the bond between the two of you.

The Toto Ring Sling Baby Carrier

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Its features include the following:

  • Made from rich African fabrics, such as Ankara, Kitenge, Kikoy, Kanga and Maasai shuka.
  • It has a pair of either nylon or aluminium rings.
  • It’s easy to wear, you just tie the sling and wear baby across, then adjust appropriately. And the rings are safe and do hold well and securely.
  • It is light and folds easily – you can slip it inside your bag and take it out when you need it.
  • It can carry a newborn to a child who weighs 13 kgs.

The Toto Woven Kikoy Front Carry

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This one is sturdy, and is great for front, hip or rucksack carry. It really feels good to have your hands free whilst baby is snuggled up close to you.

The Water/Mesh Toto Wraps

  • 100% polyester jersey .breath-able fabric with just the right amount of stretch
  • The fabric feels like a lightweight, silky swimsuit which keeps it light in the water & dries very quickly.
  • Wear baby in the shower, at the beach, at the water-park or in the pool.
  • This especially comes in handy for keeping your hands free to play with or help older children in the water!
  • Can even be used as a sporty, everyday wrap!
  • Age suitability Newborn – 13 kgs.
  • A must have for the summer!

For those attending baby showers, I think a Toto Wrap would be a good baby shower gift, or you can buy it for a new mom when you go visit her. And you need not worry; all wraps come with a manual with clear instructions. It might take two or three tries for you to get it, but once you do, it will be a smooth sail. There is a very helpful team of people at Toto Wrap who ensure that you leave knowing how to wrap baby.

Contact Lia Efatha on 0717 993 884 or email: totowraps@gmail.com

Deliveries / courier / shipping can be organized upon request.

Find Toto Wraps on Facebook.

A Member of Parliament, a Cake and Breastfeeding Celebrations

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Yesterday I was at the Kenyatta National Hospital attending celebrations to mark the World Breastfeeding Week. As you know by now, I hold breastfeeding very close to my heart because I totally get the benefits of breastfeeding.

So yesterday I got to hang out with nurses and breastfeeding supporters based at KNH. I must say that for once, I was glad the event started late –it was supposed to start at 9.30am but it started at 11am (I am tempted to say that that is typical of government functions but I shall not say it). I say I was glad because I arrived for the function at 10.55 am (I am tempted to say that of late I have been practising alot of African timing but I shall not say it).

The event started off with the KNH breastfeeding choir belting out tunes themed on breastfeeding. Reminded me of Muungano choir. :) Then there were the usual speeches that begin with …ladies and gentlemen, honourable guests …. all protocols observed ….. it is my great honor…..

Then there was the highlight of the event, which was a speech by a newbie in the current parliament, Hon. Sarah Paulata Korere (very cool name). I enjoyed her speech. Because it was mainly off the cuff –not those written speeches that are so disconnecting with the audience. She’s a good narrator this Hon. Korere (still being jazzed by that name).

She talked of how when she was recently being sworn in as a Member of Parliament, her baby was only 3 weeks old. And that it became extremely difficult to balance the rigors of a hectic bunge schedule, meeting her constituents (she’s nominated by the way but serves her constituents nevertheless) and taking care of her infant. At some point, the stress was too much and she wondered what to do with her baby because she just couldn’t keep up with ‘breastfeeding on demand’. So she opted for formula milk. But just as she was about to feed her baby formula, she on second thought consulted a lactation manager, who took her through the A – Z of expressing and storing breastmilk.

She actually amused the audience when she said that she didn’t know that it was possible to express and store breastmilk. :) Having learnt that, she disposed the idea of formula milk, and is proud to say that she’s today managed to keep her baby purely on breastmilk. She carries her baby to parliament with her and keeps taking breaks from parliamentary proceedings to go nurse baby. I must meet this mheshimiwa for a one-on-one interview on just how this has been working for her –knowing how many of the male peoples in parliament tend to be very unfriendly to issues concerning their female colleagues and women in general. Atleast that’s how previous parliaments have been. I didn’t get time to ask her that yesterday because she was travelling out of town, but since I took down her contacts, I’ll set up an appointment with her and let you know.

Haya, after her speech, it was time to cut the ‘breastfeeding cake’ basically meant to celebrate the breastfeeding week. Now this cake was an interesting one because I understand that it was made of only ‘healthy ingredients –I didn’t get what that meant, but what I caught was that it didn’t have alot of sugar and icing. Here, have a look at it.

Since Hon. Korere was the guest of honor, she’s the one who did the cake cutting –assisted by many other hands. It was passed round like the way it’s done at weddings, and it tasted good –it was fruity.

After that, the function was over, but not before the organizers made sure that our stomachs had a little fill. Which was good because as you know, I am nursing my 4 month old son, and I am PERMANENTLY hungry. The function ended at about 1.15pm so the bitings really did me good. The bitings were a packet of 250 ml milk (how appropriate), a mshikaki, a small sweet banana and a half tomato sandwich. I ate them happily and was good to go.

For me, the only miss was that they didn’t have some breastfeeding moms besides Hon. Korere to also share their experiences. I asked one of the organizers why this was so, and he told me it’s because the weather was very cold and they didn’t want to expose babies to this (the function was outdoors –next to the main KNH bus stop). Actually maybe I should have shared my experiences. ;)

Oh, another miss was that the whole function was to launch the ‘Breastfeeding Support Group’, but I left the function abit vague on the group -what it will do, who will be in the group, and how they will go about supporting breasfeeding moms. So I took down the contacts of one of the organizers, a lady called Agnes, and told her I’ll call her up so that I can get more of this information as I’m sure it can benefit not only myself, but also some of you and your sisters, cousins, friends, colleagues etc.

Yeah, so that was it. I then quickly rushed back home to eat a real meal plus ofcourse to nurse baby Ello and play with Kitty. :) Have a lovely long weekend ahead and Eid Mubarak to all our Muslim relatives and friends.

A Special Retreat for Mums and their Tween Daughters

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Ladies, do you remember your tween years? When you were blossoming into womanhood? Who was your greatest influence then? How did you relate with your mom? Did you openly talk to her? Did she give you advice on matters life? Do you wish she had?

Well, The Johari Centre will this month hold a special retreat for moms and their pre-teen daughters. I spoke to the organizer, Emily Jakalia about this event, and she gave more details.

MT: What is the relevance of the ages 10 – 12 years?

EJ: 10 – 12 years are the preteen ages. This is a time of change for these girls – physically, mentally and emotionally. They have alot going on for them as they transition from girl to young woman. What happens to a girl at this age, her experiences and the influences around her have a great bearing on the kind of woman she will be in her adulthood. The transition from girl to woman can be made easier if her mom is involved as her primary source of information.

MT: Why is this retreat important for a mother and her tween daughter?

EJ: There are very important issues that this girl faces, key among them sex matters. Research and statistics by Consumer Insight reveal that 4 in every 10 youth aged between 13 – 19 years had already engaged in sex. The internet, and especially social media has become almost like a religion for this age group, and many young girls are being misled on matters sex.  Mothers therefore need to take back their positions and pass on the right information to their daughters. This retreat will be a good environment for moms and daughters to discuss some of these issues, explore channels of communication between them and help open up conversations that will hopefully lead the girl to making healthy choices as a teenager.

MT: What are some of the things they should look forward to during the retreat?

EJ: We will look at understanding ourselves – physically, mentally and emotionally. There will be lessons to be learnt; such as how the young girls can effectively manage the media and how to control all the messages being bombarded their way – what information they should keep and which should they filter out.

There will also be lots of fun activities that will serve as a good avenue to strengthening bonds between moms and their daughters. It will help moms and daughters continue to build their relationship – as the girl blossoms into womanhood. The good thing is that many girls at this age are still happy to spend time with their moms and are open to talking to them about different issues, sometimes even confiding in them. This retreat will be a good relaxing opportunity for mothers and their tween daughters to spend some time together, and it’s one of the best ways a mom can teach her daughter about life.

MT: Where will the venue be and what are the costs?

EJ: The venue will be at Oak Place (off Kiambu rd, along Ridgeways – Garden Estate)

Moms and daughters can choose one Saturday that suits them both.

The Saturdays are: 17 August, 24 August and 31 August 2013. Each day is limited to only 10 pairs of moms and their daughters.

The retreat costs Ksh 10,000 per pair. This caters for teas, lunch and learning materials. There is an offer for the first 3 registrations for each Saturday at Khs 9,000 per pair.

 

So there you go. If you have a pre-teen daughter, or if your sister, aunt, cousin, friend, neighbor or colleague does, share this information with them hopefully they can attend. It sounds interesting and I certainly would have attended if I had a pre-teen daughter. :) You can reach Emily on 0722 798 698 or info@joharicentre.com for more details. See Johari Centre on Facebook.

See flier below too.

6 of the Most Frequently Asked Questions about Breastfeeding

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Lucy Muchiri of Eve’sMama is a consultant midwife and breastfeeding counselor. She provides answers to frequently asked questions about breastfeeding.

Q: When does a pregnant mum start producing breast milk?
A: During pregnancy, the hormone prolactin increases and is responsible for enlarging the breasts and milk formation. Milk formation happens by the sixth month of pregnancy. By the eighth month, most women have pre-milk also known as colostrum. Colostrum is the milk that the baby first takes after birth.

Fact: 95% of women have milk by the time their baby is born.

Q: Breast Size and Lactation: Which produces more milk the big bust or the smaller one and will  my breasts go back to normal.

A: The fact is breast size does not determine milk production. Women with a smaller bust are assumed to have more milk. However, what they have is less storage so their breasts fill up faster as compared to those with a bigger bust. So no matter your breast size, you will have enough milk for your baby.

After breastfeeding your bust size may or may not go back to your pre-pregnancy size. Women with a smaller bust might actually end up a size smaller after breastfeeding. Exercising during your postnatal time will help you regain your pre-pregnancy size.

Q: What are some tips to successful breastfeeding?

A: Learn as much as you can about breastfeeding. Initiate breastfeeding immediately after the birth or not more than two hours after birth. The initial days, feed on demand and avoid giving baby other foods. Avoid teats and soothers till baby has learnt to breast feed. Get as much help and support as you can.

Q: How does one prevent sore and cracked nipples?

A: Often referred to as the breastfeeding couple, sore and cracked nipples can make breastfeeding painful. A good place to start is while pregnant. Prepare your nipples for latching. Flat and inverted nipples predispose you to sore and cracked nipples.

A good position while breastfeeding is very important. Poor latching leads to poor letdown, poor letdown makes the baby suck hard and this causes soreness. Ensure the baby has a good latch and is always facing the breast.

After feeding your baby, release the suction from the baby before removing your breast. A good old golden practice is to apply milk around the nipple, it acts as a protector. Expose the breast to the air for a while to allow it to dry.

Q: How often should I breastfeed?

A: Before your milk supply is established, breastfeeding should be “on demand” (when your baby is hungry). Most babies at this time will feed every 1½ to 3 hours.

As you newborn baby grows, they will tend to breastfeed less frequently. They will be able to develop their own, more reliable schedule. Some babies will feed every 1½ hours, while others might go 2 or 3 hours between feeds.
It is important that you do not let your newborn baby go for more than 4 hours without feeding, even at night.

Q: How to achieve a good latch on?

A: The most important thing for a good latch is Position. That means both you and your baby are comfortable. Use a breastfeeding support pillow as that always helps you achieve a comfortable position. Bring baby to you and make sure you are tummy-to-tummy with baby at all times with baby’s nose directly opposite the nipple. Hold the breast using a “C” or “U” hold. A nipple touch to baby’s upper lip stimulates them to open the mouth. Allow baby to latch on themselves.

A good latch will usually result in a deep pulling sensation in your breast. Baby’s bottom and top lip are flanged out like fish lips. The Chin is touching your breast and there are circular movements of baby’s jaw. You can here sucking and swallowing noises.”

I’m Moving Houses; How do I Transport my Expressed Frozen Breastmilk?

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Here’s a question I received the other day from a new mum who is keen on giving her new baby the best start in life -by giving her breastmilk.

“I am moving houses over the weekend and I have stored breastmilk in the freezer component of my fridge, kept in milkbags. I have been expressing this milk over the the last one month. How should I transport the milkbags, or where should I keep the frozen milk so that it does not thaw?”

I then forwarded her question to lactation manager and breastfeeding counselor Josie M. Karoki of Huny Suckle, who offered the following response:

“Invest in a cooler box, which you can find in most leading supermarkets in various sizes. Then buy some ice, readily available in most leading supermarkets.

Keep the ice in the freezer with the milk… if there is space until the day of the move. If there isn’t space, for instance if one doesn’t have a separate chest freezer at home, then the ice can be purchased on the day of the move, placed in the cooler box and the frozen milk packets added to the box.

The key is to ensure that the frozen milk is always in contact with the ice.

Another advantage of always having a cooler box at hand is that during lengthy power cuts, a mum has an alternative available. She can either always have ice in her freezer or simply go out and buy some in order to prevent loss of expressed breastmilk to power failure.

If a cooler box is too expensive for now, a clean bucket with a lid can also work. However, because of the lack of insulation -which a cooler box provides, it means that the ice will melt faster. In this case, the milk will need to be transferred back into the freezer as soon as possible, as soon as the temperatures in the freezer are low enough after re-connection to prevent further thawing of the milk.”

 

Hope this information helps you too as it has me.

image courtesy: let’s talk breastfeeding, Kenya

5 Things I Miss Most Since I Became a Mom

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I love being a mom. Very much. But there are some things that change once you become a mom, and there are things that I do look back at and I miss. They change from time to time, but at this particular moment, this is what I miss most:

1. Being able to look down and see my toes. Ooohhh, long gone are those days because nowadays, there is this ‘pot’ that stands in the way. I seriously need to do something about it. For real this time. Because my major problem in the past (and present actually) is chronic procrastination syndrome combined with non-discipline syndrome. *sigh*. Plus I need to really focus on eating clean and not giving all manner of excuses.

2. Being able to be punctual to anywhere I’m going. I don’t know why, but it’s just not possible for me to be on time for anything nowadays, whether I’m going with the kids or not. When not going with them, there are like 1001 things that must be done URGENTLY before I leave the house. No matter how early I wake up to prepare, I still end up getting out of the house maybe an hour or so after I should have left. Sometimes I just have to forego that plan altogether. And now when I’m going with both boys? Mayooooooo! Don’t even ask!

3. Buying stuff for myself. Those days, I used to go shopping and buy me all good. Nowadays, I go to buy stuff for myself and I instead come back home with little boy’s stuff and only a Tyler Perry movie for myself (Kate Simba and Kobie Macharia you made me go get this movie). I don’t even know why I do so yet I’ve always thought I’m one of those organized people who don’t do impulse buying or those ones who stick to the items on the budget list. I guess I’m learning new things about myself.

4. Sleep. And sleeping non-interrupted till morning at that. That should actually have been number one. Enough said.

5. Hanging out with my girlfriends. Waaahhh, si I miss those days. When we would paint the town red without the least bit of care in the world. Days that I thought would last forever :) ! Even though I’m still in touch with my girls, we don’t meet as often as I would like to, or like we used to. Life changes and you just have to accept it. I have.

 

6. Speaking of which, let me add number 6 even though I had said 5 things I missed most. Chama was kawa, you know – just one of the normal things that I would do. But nowadays, chama is all that I look forward to. Asin I get that feeling of a kid excited about the school trip the following day. I almost don’t sleep that night as the excitement is usually too much. I get that feeling because it’s the time I get to meet all the gals and spend some good bonding time. We meet every two months, and I can tell you that that’s the only social event I look forward to in this my life nowadays. I remember there was this time due to unavoidable circumstances chama was cancelled and I felt a lump in my throat accompanied by tear drop from my eye. I was so disappointed. And whenever I get home from chama, I start counting days to the next one.

And by the way, is it just our chama –where we meet at 2pm and bond and bond and bond, then at around 7.30pm is when we suddenly start panicking because it’s already gotten late and we haven’t even started discussing the real agenda of the day, then we hurriedly discuss the agenda for like 20 minutes, then say our goodbyes for another 3 hours or so as we ask the host to prepare more thermoses’ of tea whilst wrapping ourselves in warm shawls and blankets? Does that happen in other chama’s or it’s just ours?

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