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Endometriosis in Kenya: Elsie Wandera: Severe Period Pain has Been My Normal For 20 Years


35-year-old Elsie Wandera began her periods when she was 13 years old and just like other young girls, she was excited at this significant milestone — the transition from girl to woman. But what she did not know then was that this development phase would be the cause of great anguish for her in years to come.

The anguish began when she was 15 years old and a high school student at Loreto Convent Msongari in Nairobi. While her periods had been without major incident since she had started them two years before, they suddenly became an agonizing experience for her.

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“Every month, my periods would be accompanied by severe abdominal pain that would see me leave class many times to go lay down in the school’s sanatorium. I would feel as though the insides of my abdomen were being knotted, tugged at and pulled apart in all directions. It was as though my abdomen was being stabbed by a thousand knives.”

While for most teenage girls the monthly periods are a guarded issue, a personal private affair; this was not the same for Elsie.

“The entire school community would know when I was menstruating. From my fellow pupils to the teachers to the administration. It was something I could not hide and would make me feel very embarrassed. Many are the times that my mother would be called to come take me home,” Elsie remembers.

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 Every month, Elsie would have her classes interrupted because of the pain. Sometimes, she would have to miss days of school during her period, which would last on average three days.

Even worse was the stigma she would face from her peers.

“My schoolmates would tell me that period cramps were something normal that they all dealt with and could therefore not understand why I made such a big deal of mine. Why did I have to create so much hullabaloo about it? They accused me of being an attention seeker. I found this to be very hurtful.”

After high school, Elsie joined Daystar University. But the pain would only get worse, where she would miss lots of classes each month. All that time, Elsie survived on painkillers. She had become so used to oral painkillers and had now graduated to pain-relieving injections which she would get from a hospital.

Finally, at 26, when the pain became unbearable, Elsie decided to see a gynaecologist.

“The doctor took me through a series of tests, including a laparoscopic exam that gave a diagnosis of endometriosis. In layman terms, the doctor said my uterus was growing ‘inside out’,” remembers Elsie.

In medical terms, endometriosis is a condition where the tissue that normally lines the insides of the uterus grow outside the uterus. The tissues can grow on the ovaries, fallopian tubes, the outer wall of the uterus, intestines or other organs in the belly. Sometimes they can be found in areas beyond the belly. During each menstrual cycle, the displaced endometrial tissue thickens, breaks down and bleeds — as it normally would if it were in the uterus. Because of this abnormality, the time before and during the menstrual period can be a very painful experience. Endometriosis is usually categorized as a long-lasting chronic disease.

During Elsie’s laparoscopy, the doctor also realized that she had an ovarian cyst (endometrioma) that was close to rupturing. An endometrioma is a type of cyst that is formed when the endometrial tissue grows in the ovaries. Following this revelation, Elsie had to undergo immediate surgery to remove the cyst. She was then placed on hormone therapy for the next six months.

“It was great relief for me for those six months because I did not have periods. It felt like heaven. Even though I experienced menopausal symptoms such as hot flashes and mood swings, I embraced them because they were nothing compared to the period pain.”

After the six months of treatment, Elsie’s period resumed. But she was not prepared for what followed next.

“The severe pain was back! I was devastated. I had undergone surgery and hormone therapy for six months, yet there seemed to be no difference! I felt cheated!”

When Elsie returned to the gynaecologist, he informed her that the surgery and hormone therapy was not intended to cure her endometriosis, but to relieve the symptoms and create a hormonal balance.

“I wish he had made that clear to me at the beginning of the treatment because I had been so hopeful that my life would finally be free of pain each month,” a disappointed Elsie recalls.

At that time, Elsie was working in the corporate sector and would miss many days off work during her menses. Thankfully, she had a supportive boss and colleagues who always understood when she had to be away.

Interestingly, the doctor would suggest a solution for her.

“He told me that I needed to get pregnant as soon as possible, or else I would never be able to get a child, that the endometriosis would only get worse with age, and that women with my condition experienced high infertility rates. So in a panic, I decided to follow his advice.”

But it was not easy.

“For starters, sex was always a very painful experience for me. I never enjoyed it at all because my uterus was so sensitive and the act of intercourse would only ignite unbearable pain.”

But because she was scared of not becoming a mother someday, she began nagging her boyfriend about having a baby. But he was not prepared for fatherhood and it could be the reason why after a few months, the couple parted ways.

“I don’t think it’s a good idea for doctors to advise women with endometriosis to get pregnant. Dating couples may not be ready to have a baby yet and this could lead to conflict. If in a marriage, it can put undue pressure on the couple. A child should be a gift, not a solution to pain,” she says.

With surgery, hormone therapy and painkillers not working, Elsie continued to live her life, having accepted the nightmare of her menstrual cycle.

But in 2014, the pain became so bad that she had to go in for a second surgery after tests revealed that she had developed another ovarian cyst that was at the point of rupture.

She underwent the surgery in September last year and was once again placed on hormone therapy for six months. She is just about to complete the treatment and is hopeful that this time round, the period pain will be relieved.

“I will not get my hopes up this time round. I only hope that the pain will not be as bad,” she says.

In October last year, just after the surgery, Elsie decided to make public her journey with endometriosis.

“I have undergone so much pain and suffering for close to two decades. I have however been lucky to have the support of family and friends. It has not been an easy journey though, as it has been wrought with many frustrations, pain, anger, enormous expenses and even lost relationships. I want to walk this journey with other women.”

About the Facebook Group: Endometriosis Foundation of Kenya

Elsie Wandera formed an online support group on Facebook — Endo Journey 254 — to raise awareness about endometriosis.

“Group members share information about endometriosis. We share our own personal experiences and learn from each other. We find relief in knowing that there are other women who have lived their lives with similar pains and experiences. It is a forum where no one judges you, but accepts you. I have learnt that many women suffer in silence because of the stigma associated with periods. It is termed as a ‘woman’s issue’ and the woman is left to deal with it on her own.

Medical treatment is also very expensive. Consulting a specialist doctor will cost you no less than Sh2,500 per visit. My first hormone therapy dose cost me Sh25,000 monthly, and I took it for six months. The hormone therapy I’m currently on is much cheaper — at a cost of Sh2,000 monthly. My second surgery cost me about Sh300,000. Most insurance providers do not cover for these costs as endometriosis is classified as a pre-existing and chronic condition,” she says.

Elsie hopes to lobby the government to reduce endometriosis management drugs. She also hopes to lobby for the inclusion of endometriosis by insurance providers, as well as bring on board specialist doctors who can subsidize their charges to women with endometriosis.

From the support group, Elsie has also learned about missed opportunities for women, especially those in the workplace.

“Due to them missing work for a couple of days each month, some women are sidelined from projects or promotions because they are ‘weaklings’ and are deemed to be poor performers,” she says.

Endo Journey 254 is also open to men who want to know more about endometriosis.

“I have come to discover that men who have women around them who suffer from intense period pains always agonise over how to help them. Being in the group and hearing about women’s experiences and the kind of support they would need from their brothers, fathers, uncles and even colleagues helps them a lot,” she says.

Because of the painful sex associated with endometriosis, and even infertility, Elsie says she knows of marriages that have been strained as a result, where some men seek sexual fulfillment outside their relationships.

“In a society that places a woman’s worth on her ability to bear children, it can be very stressful for a woman because of undue pressure,” she says.

Elsie’s plans include giving talks in schools to create awareness among young girls and let them know that severe period pain is not normal and needs to be checked by a doctor.

“It is also important for young girls to understand the issue and not stigmatize girls who experience excruciating period pain as it may make the girl suffer low self-esteem issues.”

Elsie can be reached on: Wandera.Elsie@gmail.com

Also See TV Presenter Ciru Muriuki’s Endometriosis Story Below:

NB: I first published Elsie’s story here.



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Maryanne W. Waweru is a Kenyan mum raising her two sons in Nairobi. A journalist, Maryanne is passionate about telling stories and hopes that through her writing, her readers learn something new, feel encouraged, inspired, and appreciative of what they have in their lives. Maryanne's writing focuses on motherhood, women and lifestyle. "Telling stories is the only thing I know how to do," she says.


  1. Menstruation period are the days and I don’t wish to come, I always vomit like a pregnant woman, crawl like a baby, sweat as if I have done a tiresome job.

    • Oh pole to hear that Florence. Please connect with Elsie, who will in turn connect you with other women who share the same woes. I hope you will soon get relief from that.

  2. I thought I was on my own. I don’t know if it’s endometriosis, I don’t know what it is neither do doctors but I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy

    • You’re not on your own Stella. Pole sana. Please connect with Elsie other women on the endometriosis facebook group -it’s a great support system.

  3. reminds me how i used to say gals “hujifanya mayai”, i couldnt understand how something like periods would make someone go to hospital or fail to attend class. until i had my real periods woooi, that was the only time i considered ending my life. i could not imagine going through such pain every month. Pain, vomiting, nausea, weakness….to a point that i would avoid class and latter used to ask for permission from work immediately the period started to avoid too much drama. At some point the boss demanded for an explanation why i have to keep asking for permission..eventually everyone in the office new of my problem. But i also took advantage, if the period came over the weekend i wud definately ask the day off even when the pain was over, afterall the boss expected that every month.
    Luckly for me the pain ended once i got a kid, and ofcoz the pregnancy was unevenvtful (no nausea, no throwing up…guess had had enough of that b4) but looks like as my body is getting back the old shape, the pain is slowly creeping back…


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