When I was a fresh new mom, there are things that people said to me that just got me shaking my head in wonderment. Things that were said that were sometimes well-meaning, well-intentioned, but totally outrageous. Others just intentionally mean. While admittedly, being a new mom comes with so much joy, sometimes people can really kill that joy by the things they say. Just so you be aware, here are some of those questions, comments or statements that new moms find to be quite unpleasant.
Hallooooo, I gave birth three months ago -can’t you see? Sigh!
2. You mean you’re still wearing maternity jeans? (you gave birth three months ago).
If you’re wise you’ll know that the stomach doesn’t deflate automatically the baby pops out. FYI many new moms still have a ‘stomach’ weeks and even months after the baby is born.
3. Ummm…that’s an interesting baby name…
We parents of today have gone all out in terms of baby-name creativity, with everyone having their own preferences, so you could try and downplay the judgmental tone and facial expression of ‘what on earth were you thinking when giving your baby such a name’? Yes, some names are quite curious, but I suggest that you move along and just continue minding your own business.
4. Are those eyebags you have? You’re starting to let yourself go….usijiachilie…
Can I give you my newborn you see how much sleep you’ll get and if you won’t have a similar look? Truth is, most new moms hardly sleep. They say you sleep when baby sleeps, but when baby sleeps –that’s when you need to rush for a quick shower, organize the grocery or shopping and other house-management duties. And when finally done, when the new mom finally slumps onto the bed for a quick nap, at that very particular moment -the baby wakes up. Again. For the nth time. So excuse new moms please if they have blood shot eyes and huge eye bags and if they keep yawning every two minutes as you talk to them.
Did I hear you say that she needs a SERIOUS pedicure and manicure?
5. “My dear, you need to start losing that baby weight now.”
And as they say this they’re shaking their heads and analyzing your from head to toe, in a mix of emotions ranging between disapproval and disgust. Let me not even get started on such people. Or those who engage in bragging remarks such as… I lost all my baby fat immediately or my baby slept all through the night from birth #rollseyes. Could you just shush already and not try to rub it in my face??? Every baby is different you know!
6. You baby is so light, kwani you’re not feeding her? Ni kadogo sana haka.
Are you insinuating that I’m starving my baby or what? New moms already worry too much about too many things -their baby’s health being number one. So this mom is already stressed knowing that at the last baby clinic appointment the same thing was asked, so could you just drop it? Some babies put on weight fast, others gain it slowly. And could you please refrain from saying ‘ha-ka’ when referring to my baby? Ha-ka is to say what now? Grrrr.
7. What? You had a normal delivery? But your baby is soooo huge! Where did he pass through?
And in their minds they’re most likely pitying your husband.
8. After all that food you ate (while pregnant) and the elephant that you were, you only managed to produce a baby this tiny? This is all you were carrying?
Like really? The wisdom of some people simply amazes me.
9. Haiya, the baby looks just like his father.
And that surprises you? Were you expecting anything different?
10. So when is baby number two coming?
Excuse me, can my stitches heal first? And can you mind your own business in the first place?
Any new mom wish to add more to this list? Feel free to do so in the comments section below :).