The other weekend, I attended the bridal shower of good family friend Joy. Joy is the baby sister of Mwarikhwa. It was a truly good shower, mainly because of two things: The company of the ladies present, the ambiance of the place, the novel things about the shower, the yellow theme, the guest speaker and last but not least – the bitings (those are not two things now, are they?).
The shower was held at a Spa in the Kitisuru neighborhood, a nice serene and lovely ambiance for the close knit of family and friends who attended it. The events of the day took place at both the outdoors and the indoors.
The first thing that I liked? The banners that littered the walls of the spa – displayed on both the inside and outside. Banners of Joy and her husband to be. Banners? Me that one I’ve never seen. Very lovely and considerate of those who organized it.
The company was not lost on me either. It was a good mature crowd that had a mix of single, married and separated ladies.
Now, the guest invited to speak to the ladies present was an apt choice. It was marriage counselor and author Jennifer Karina (of the book Marriage Built to Last).
Let me talk a little bit about Jennie, as she prefers to be called. For starters, she is a good orator. She shared with us some of her experiences in her 35 years of marriage, candidly talking about the ups and downs she’s been through, what she learnt from them and how we too can learn. It was good. Very insightful and very enriching. If you ever get a chance to get a hold of Jennie, by all means do so. She’s worth it.
Here are some pieces of advice that Jennie shared that struck me that I thought to share with you:
- *Don’t enter marriage with an exit strategy in mind.
- *A woman should take full charge of her house.
- *Life is not always fair. You can be beautiful and the admiration of many, are smart, have brains, are ambitious, successful in your career, God-fearing and with good morals and principles to boot. And you are a praying woman. But yet you’re not finding the right man. Your season is coming. God is never too early or too late.
- *Our parents’ marriages or lives have a great impact on the people that we are today. And for those of us who are parents, let’s be knowing that how we relate with our spouses will have a great influence on our children.
- *Intellectual intimacy should never lack in a marriage. It doesn’t matter how much sex you give your man. You have to connect intellectually.
Then ofcourse there was the gifts moment, I tell you, Joy is a loved girl. Her friends went all out. She is a very lucky girl. And from some of the gifts she got – uummmm… I guess so is her husband-to-be (;)
And the final surprise of the day was the limo that had been organized to take her on a ‘night out’ around the city. Si Joy and her buddies painted the town red how? Absolute wonder!
I must say, that it was a Saturday well spent. I have been to many showers, but this one stands out as one of the most enriching and meaningful ones that I have ever been to.
In my very own personal opinion based on my experiences in the showers I’ve been to, the selection of the main speaker is very important. The choice of this person is absolutely crucial – I kid you not!. I’ve been to showers like Joy’s, where the main speaker talks about marriage and what to expect, and how to prepare the bride for it – and covers all issues – from finances, to sex, to children, to in-laws etc.
Then ofcourse there are those ones whose selection is sex aunties or uncles (are they called sex uncles ama?) who basically focus on sex (sometimes practically demonstrating stuff), and rarely touch on anything else. Such showers are more of entertainment and fun, but not much substance. Which is not bad, but is that all? Then again, maybe I’ve grown old and my preference for some things has become a wee bit conservative
I wish Joy and her partner all of God’s blessings as they begin their marriage journey.
Here are some more photos from the shower.