Home Featured Mums “Why Doesn’t she Just Leave?”

“Why Doesn’t she Just Leave?”


I’m in a number of Facebook groups that have thousands of Kenyan moms. And I take note that there are many women suffering abuse from their spouses and boyfriends, in silence. Interestingly, more and more women are beginning to talk about their suffering. They are coming out to do so, even though most are doing so under pseudo’s. Which is fine because this is significant. It is important to say something. It is a first step. A first step to something.

These are beautiful women tormented in marriages and in ‘complicated relationships’. They are staying put because of ‘what society will say’. Staying put ‘because of the kids’. Staying put ‘because he’s an amazing dad’. Staying put ‘because I’ve invested too much work in this marriage to just walk out’. Staying put ‘because I wouldn’t know where to start (he provides everything).  Staying put ‘because when he doesn’t drink alcohol he’s a very good man’. Staying put ‘because I have my flaws and no one else can love me the way he does…


I know a number of women in these situations. And I’m sure you also know one or two or three women suffering an abusive relationship. And the question we always ask is: “Why don’t you just leave?” When we learn of another woman suffering in an abusive relationship, we ask: “Why doesn’t she just leave?” And when she dies we ask, “Why didn’t she just leave?”

On the blog next week, I’ll focus on the topic of intimate partner violence. And why she doesn’t just leave. Why she stays. #WhySheStays

If you have an intimate partner violence experience to share (you can remain anonymous), inbox me on Facebook or email me on maryanne@mummytales.com with your story.

If you are in an organization that addresses the issue of gender-based violence, email me on maryanne@mummytales.com with the organization’s details and how those suffering abuse can reach out for help.




Previous articleLicking Lemon and Salt as I Walked around Town is How I Effectively Managed my Morning Sickness –Purity Musalia
Next articleWhy an Educated, Intelligent Woman Like Me Stayed in an Abusive Marriage
Maryanne W. Waweru is a Kenyan mum raising her two sons in Nairobi. A journalist, Maryanne is passionate about telling stories and hopes that through her writing, her readers learn something new, feel encouraged, inspired, and appreciative of what they have in their lives. Maryanne's writing focuses on motherhood, women and lifestyle. "Telling stories is the only thing I know how to do," she says.


Please enter your comment!
Please enter your name here

14 − 4 =