29 year-old Amanda Marie is mother to 5 year-old daughter Ariyana Zawadi. Amanda fell pregnant while in campus (a strictly Christian campus), and had to keep the pregnancy hidden throughout. Read on…
Maryanne: Tell us a little about yourself.
Amanda: I am a mother to an awesome daughter -my pride and joy. When not at home with Ariyana, I spend my day at work. I am the Operations Manager at a high-end clothing store based in Nairobi. I enjoy my job very much (I love the clothes, the shoes, the bags… especially the bags), and it is a great experience for me. Even though it is a challenging role, it fulfills me and I go home happy each day. And once home, I become even happier as I spend time with my daughter.
Maryanne: Tell us about the time you found out you were pregnant.
Amanda: It was not easy. I was in my final year in campus -a strictly Christian university I must mention. The campus not only upholds the principle of ‘no sex before marriage’, but it is against the campus policy to have a baby before you get married. Yes, campus policy! But I was comforted by the fact that I was dating the most handsome man in the world and I couldn’t hide my joy of having his baby. He was the first person I informed about my pregnancy.
But later, when we sat down and talked about it, I got scared because his parents are pastors. Not only that, but my parents are church elders so you can only imagine the kind of self-pressure we were in. It is perhaps because of this that I successfully managed to hide my pregnancy from my parents for the first five months. Sadly though, during this time, the relationship with my boyfriend became really strained and we split. It was just not working.
So when I realized I was going to do this alone, I finally got the courage and slipped a note into my mother’s purse. In the note, I apologized for getting pregnant before marriage and for not telling her sooner about it. When she returned home from work that evening, I was numb with fear. I was ready for anything. I then dropped the bombshell to my mum -I was pregnant!
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