Things Not to Say to a Woman Who Has Just Lost a Baby

Fellow blogger Wanjiru Kihusa of A Better You was bold enough to share her experience about losing her pregnancy at 20 weeks earlier this year. Her baby was due in March 2014. Today, Wanjiru is still coping with the grief of losing her first child Leila.

Since she lost her baby, Wanjiru continues to receive words of comfort and encouragement from many people. However, there are those who have said very insensitive things to her. Though well-meaning and said quite innocently, some ‘words of comfort’ have cut like a sharp razor.

From the experience of losing her baby, Wanjiru joined a support group where she continues to interact with other women who have similarly lost babies, and she has put together some statements that were said to them that were really inappropriate, and should never ever be told to someone who has just lost a baby.

One lady got told: “Your womb has so many eggs –you will give birth until you get tired.”

Another was told: “That baby was not yours, you will get another one.”

One woman lost two pregnancies in a span of one year, and the second time people were quick to ask her why she was rushing to have another baby, kwani kuna compe? (Is it a competition?).

Another lady was told that “God takes away babies with imperfections early enough, so you should actually be grateful.”

Her piece is very informative and I have learnt quite a lot from it, that we should learn to be more sensitive about the utterances that come from our lips. I hope it will do the same for you.

You can read Wanjiru’s complete post on this issue here.

Have a blessed week.

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