Hello friends, today’s piece is a post from a mom in her early thirties who is a single parent, raising her 10 year-old son and her infant daughter. She shares insights into her parenting journey, and the lessons she’s learnt along the way.
“Raising kids as a single parent is one of the toughest things you can ever do. You worry about the kids alone, you provide for them alone, you take them out to have fun alone.
You make the hard life choices alone.
You shall get unsolicited advice from everywhere.
The questions of where the father is, why you are single… the judging eyes…
But I have grown with my kids. The first was an ‘oops’ baby gotten in my early 20s. I was so scared. Somewhere along the way the father left, even before baby had hit his first birthday.
The second was a planned baby and I’m enjoying every bit of parenting her.
The uncertain 20-something-year old mum was so nervous, driven by her fears, worried that I had messed up my future, that I will not be a career woman.
Now, this 30 something-year-old mum is driven by hope and big dreams.
This last month has been one of the toughest in terms of my career. I am still riding that wave. I have learnt that I’m tougher than I look or sound.
Then now I realize kids add on to your life and make you a better human; they humanize you. To my kids, I’m their sun in the sky. The mom in shining armour. To me they are my heartbeats.
Love them, for soon they shall leave you to go start their own lives. Time whizzes by so fast; you sit down and wonder where it all went. This is where memories come in. Make as many precious memories with them, sing with them in the car, act goofy. These are the things they shall remember you by. They shall grow up to be the best versions of themselves. God help me.” -END
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