Today we have a guest writer who shares her experiences of trying to potty train her 2 year old boy. A mother of two, Santina Nyagah offers insights into the differences between potty training a girl and potty training a boy. Read her story below.
“On the 1 st day of September 2009, I became a mother for the second time. I delivered a handsome little boy who goes by the name Jeremy, but whom I fondly call Energizer Bunny.
He is literally like the energizer bunny that never runs out and most of the time I can be seen running after him because he is either hanging from window grills, running outside our house butt naked, sending anything he gets his hands on flying to the ground (plates, phones, remote control etc).
Now you may think my house is a battle zone but that’s only a quarter of the time, for the rest of the time has me rolling on the floor in laughter as I try to understand this boy.
And one of the things that I am still puzzling over is how to get him to potty train ASAP.
My reason for saying this is that he seems to have taken longer than his sister to do so. It’s important to note that at this moment, diapers have risen by more than Ksh 300 per pack.
So having him potty trained will definitely go a great way towards easing my household budget.
For starters, I got a colorful potty, bought him some nice training pants and we were ready to go.
A journey that I thought would take a month or at most 2 months has not ended it is still ongoing.
Where is my patience…?
The first time I taught him how to pee, I decided to do it girl style.
He got excited about seeing his own pee in the potty and he would run and sit on it every 15 minutes even if there was nothing coming out.
But soon he got bored.
And he was back in diapers.
And I was frustrated.
(There is that word again…..patience)
So I did some research and found out that sometimes boys do take longer to get potty trained than girls.
It is then I realized I was trying too hard to be the perfect mum with a perfectly trained son and that I had to ease up on him and let him be.
I had to be …..patient
He would get ready to use his potty in his own time, not when I forced him to do it
Like my very wonderful obstetrician had told me when I was pregnant; “Each child, just like each pregnancy, is different.”
While I loved githeri while carrying my daughter and could not stand meat, with my son I had to have nyama choma and ice cream or else the world would come to an end.
While my daughter walked on her own for the first time when she turned one year, my son took his first steps at 15 months.
Each child is different.
Each child needs patience
I realized most of the frustration I felt about potty training my son was because I expected him to be like his sister.
Yet he was different. He was teaching me patience, I realized
The more frustrated, the less patient I got with him.
Jeremy is now back to wearing diapers and we are taking it one step at a time.
Sometimes he uses his potty at other times he misses it and I have to run for a mop and get rid of his tell tale signs on my floor.
But at least I am not pulling out my hair in frustration.
A few days ago he even started peeing standing up like a boy and I was quite excited.
See that virtue called patience worked.
Life as a mother is a learning curve that never plateaus and with each child you learn more but you still discovers so much more you never knew.
And one of the things I am learning is to be patient….”
Do you have any tips you can give our guest writer, or any experiences you had potty training your boy or girl that you can share with her and other moms? Feel free to do so in the comments section of this post.
Editor’s note: Santina is a nutritionist with her own recipe blog which she refers to as ‘The Culinary Adventures of a Very Cool Kenyan Mum!’
If you have any motherhood experiences and which you wouldn’t mind sharing with fellow moms, you can email me on firstname.lastname@example.org for more details.
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